2007-02-07 02:04:39 · 9 answers · asked by need2no 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you are talking to people, make eye contact. Ask them questions about themselves, usually this breaks the ice, and the conversation can flow. It sounds as if you just need to build up your self confidence a little bit, or are a little shy. Relax and don't worry so much, your tension is probably showing through, and it may make them feel uncomfortable. Listen to what they are saying and confirm that you are listening...by nodding or smiling, or by simple answers.."I see"...or "I know"..."oh, really?" It might take some practice, but eventually you'll be able to do it with ease.
2007-02-07 02:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this problem. It used to get me down. But not EVERYONE wants to be your friend, for whatever reason.
I would say just move on to the next person and strike up a conversation, if they give you the cold shoulder, move on to the next. Don't take it personal, just take it as that those people that "lost interest" in you have "lost" getting to know a great friend, you!
I've made a good amount of friends through online communities like myspace and yahoo groups.
Find people with similar interests so that you will always have something to talk about.
2007-02-07 02:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should work on that because i'm sure yoy feel lonesome. You don't neccessarily have to talk to everybody you see, but every now then say hey and how you doing. Once you start with small chitchat big converstions become a whole lot easier. Take it from me. I mean I never had a fear like your's but I wouldn't really talk to anybody because I thought nobody would like me because I tend to speak my mind. Now I have more friends than anybody.
2007-02-07 02:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by vanessa k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you stand in front of a Mirror and take a good look at yourself. Keep looking and ask that person looking back, I LIKE YOU, I LOVE YOU. Do this exercise daily until you come to believe it.
If you don believe in yourself, how can you expect other to? Are you a boring person? No, I'm not, say this as well, over and over.
This kind of exercise is called self psychology. It works.
2007-02-07 02:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is stay true to yourself and be who you are. Do not try to fit into someone else's mold. If the people you try to befriend don't like you then maybe you should look closely at the type of people you select to be friends with. Never compromise yourself just so others will like you.
Good Luck!
2007-02-07 02:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ebbie777 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you are a reallly honest and genuine person chances are there is someone just like u finding them is the hard part. Join a club or spend time with family friends.
2007-02-07 02:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to stay interested in them. They aren't loosing interest in you, you are loosing interest in them, subconsciously, unconsciously, sending vibes that you are not interested. They subconsciously pick up these vibes and become uninterested in you.
2007-02-07 02:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by JoJo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me you are very shy, but thats OK
i see it as in order to have a friend you have to be a friend
this may seem hard but practice makes perfect
2007-02-07 02:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by chick4god 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way and that is why I really do not know.
2007-02-07 02:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by may s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋