find out. and i think im pregnant with his baby. i love him so much. we have been together about 18 months now.
2007-02-07 01:58:24 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are so naive, Your parents are gonna place statutory rape charges on him and frankly i don't blame them. That is ridiculous.
He's more than likely just using you and apparently its for sex, my god i never thought about sex till i was 18 and i regret every bit of it i was never stupid enough to get knocked UP!!!! Tell your parents so that this can be resolved!
2007-02-07 02:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Peaches 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ok im sorry but this is just wrong i just turned 14 last week, and i would never think about that, anyways do what u can to get help tell ur parents a close friend or even go to a professional i was almost 13 when my lil sis was born i helped take care of her i helped my mom when she was pregnant and now her father left us on a very low income for a 19 year old, but the point is u think o a baby is so cute i want one...wait until they are born u will regret it staying up with them at night trying to find out y they r crying u will never be able to do this and if u love him as much as u say then u will tell ur parents and if u r pregnant u will deliver the baby and give it up for adoption im more worried about u if u have an abortion it can and most likely will scar u for life my best friends mother had and abortion when she was 14 and today she doesnt forgive herself u can choose who u want the baby to go to and u will get to visit the baby but pls if u r pregnant and love this man and the baby u might have then give it up for adoption so u dont have to take away from ur life to raise this child u still have most of ur life left and raising a baby is not fun...at all
2007-02-10 07:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by female football player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Honey!!! I am 19 and my fiance is 34!!! Yes 19 is different than 14 understand that part. I have been through alot at 19. I had to grow up quicker than most teenagers because of things life threw at my family and I had to basically support myself all throughout high school. I've been in a serious relationship before my relationship now. I was also pregnant by my fiance. I had a miscarriage. People on here are right. At 14 you think your inlove to the fullest. I thought I was and the guy I was with was my first and I ended up being with him for 4 1/2 years. I'm not trying to be mean by saying he was looking for sex. You cant help who you love and if he honestly loves you then he will be there for you and your child. When you tell your parents you are going to be scared. I was scared to tell my parents but they were only mad for a few days. No matter what your parents say dont let anyone influence you to do something that you dont want to do. But do understand that if you want to be a good mother you cant go out with your friends every time they call. You cant but you clothes when you have to buy pampers and formula. Hopefully your parents will get to know this guy and then they will let you raise your child with him. If they feel he will be around for you and the baby they will understand that you are going to need more than just help money wise. Your going to need a companion for emotional support. If you need anyone to talk to email me @ lorisbarbie@yahoo.com
2007-02-07 02:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by lorisbarbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a pregnancy test and tell your parents right away if you are. They might flip put, but you are their daughter and they just want the best for you. If they seem upset it's only because they wanted "the best" for you.
I'm a little worried about a 22 year old man being with a 14 year old. You know he could go to jail and end up on the sex offender registry. That means for the rest of his life, people will be able to go online and see his picture, address, and it will say stautory rape. Trust me, you won't feel the same about him 4 years from now when you're legal.
I know you don't view yourself as a child, but you really are still.
If you're not pregnant, then you really need to use this scare as a warning and stop having sex with him.
If you love him so much, then you wouldn't want him to be in jail would you? Also, being that you've been together since you were 12 or13, then his charges would be even worse and viewed as child molestation and 2nd degree rape.
If you love him, quit having sex with him until you're old enough to keep him out of jail.
I can tell you honestly, that if you were my daughter, i'd have his butt turned in so fast. What he's doing is VERY wrong.
2007-02-07 02:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, first of all, what are you doing with a man who is EIGHT YEARS your senior? He's not even in high school, probably out of school. You are barely in high school. Second, you need to talk to your parents, like, yesterday. They will flip out because the father of your possible baby is so much older than you and you're only 14! In most states, age of consent is at least 16 for someone between 18 and 21, at 22 the age of consent is 18. I don't think you completely understand what is going on here. That is considered statuatory rape. By law, he forced you have sex using his advanced age. I know you care about him. You need to talk to your parents. Outside wanting to strangle the guy, they will help you. They need to know because they are also responsible for your baby until you are 18 or emanicpated and you can't be emancipated until you are at least 16. All I ask is that you talk to your parents NOW so they can help you figure out if you are pregnant or not. Everything will be okay. Trust me.
2007-02-07 02:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is dating you behind your parent's back, then he KNOWS what he is doing is illegal. Define "love."
You say you've been together for 18 months? So, you started dating when you were 13... and possibly even 12?
Girl, you are being used. You should watch Dateline "To Catch a Predator."
Does that really sound okay? You do not have the fortitude to raise a child, and neither does he- he cannot even make decisions that will not land him in jail.
Your parents SHOULD flip. And maybe, they should be spending more quality time with you. How are you "dating" this guy? You just not show up at home, and they are okay with it?
You can go to a crisis pregnancy center, and they will help you.
2007-02-07 02:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by K H 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Oh Honey, sounds like you have got your self in a rut. When your parents find out dont be surprised if hey press charges on him for statutory rape. (at least they should) you need to take a pregnancy test and tell your parents so you can start getting the medical treatment you need. You are so young to have a baby, if you are pregnant, you have a rough road ahead of you honey, I am not trying to be mean, it is the truth, I know first hand, I had my son when I was 14 and it was NOT EASY!!! The best of luck to you and I will keep my fingers crossed that the test comes back negative.
2007-02-07 02:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♥shannon c♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're 14 and have already been with him for 18 months? That means he was 20 and dating you at 12....this is called rape, honey. He should go to jail because what he's doing is illegal. At the very least, you need to stop seeing him. The age difference at this stage of your life is too big for this to be considered an equal relationship, no matter how mature you think you are.
Tell your parents about the situation and I pray that you aren't pregnant.
2007-02-07 02:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by chicchick 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh hunny, i know you came here for help sop i'm going to give you some. First of all, don't flip until you find out if you are or aren't. YES - your parents will flip out, I don't care how cool they are or not, your still just a baby to them. The law does concider this rape, and he would go to jail. I understand that you are in love, love has no time limit, however, for the safety of BOTH of you - you two need to stop seeing each other NOW. Believe me, i am farmiiliar with a similar situation, he went to jail. She was 15 - he DID not love her after he spent 5 years in jail. Good luck sweety.
2007-02-07 02:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rebekkah 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey all i can say is you knew the consequences and so did he! I have a friend that got his underage girl friend pregnant and her mother pressed charges. He isn't even allowed to see his son or come in any contact with the girl for 5 yrs. They were also in love. Now the baby has to grow up for the next 5yrs without his father. Even though the father wanted to be there for his family he isn't allowed to. It's terrible and it breaks my heart but that's the law. Your boyfriend knows better, he knows what can happen. If your parents find out how old he is more than likely he will be sitting in jail. Since your underage you can't do anything without your parents consent so you have to tell them.
2007-02-07 02:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I hope the best for you! I understand how it is to be young and in love, he is waaaayyyy to old for you, but if u love him and he loves u then i hope it works out. But in reality most older boys (im picky at who i call men) have a young girl who does anything they say because it easier to control their mind. But hopefully this isnt the case! As for your parents, they will be mad, im 18 & im sure my mother will be mad when i tell her im pregnant. If hes 22 he should b working and have somewhere for you all 2 live so good luck
2007-02-07 02:15:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋