ok i know this sounds bad, but i was reading my boyfriends text messages and i read a text message that he got that said
"does she know, or did you just make up a story"
he wrote back to that...
"i told her it was nothing to pursue"
i know they have to bey talking about me. but he never did tell me that something was not to pursue. but he does lie to his friends like that. and i do believe that is his friend Leia's number that he works with. and once she sent him a text message calling him sexy and wanted to talk to him. i remember the time that i read that text message, we were all drinking with his other two friends and i had his phone in my hand when he got it. Do you wanna know what he did? i told him what it said and asked why his supposed friend was calling him sexy and stuff. he grabbed the phone and said what do you mean? and then he erased it and tried to make me believe that i never saw it.
so what do you think of this new test message?
should i ask him about it?
2007-02-07 01:54:32 · 12 answers · asked by Oklahoma Economist 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
should i ask only to reveal that i was looking thru his phone... im gonna be thinking about this all day. and im gonna be hateful to him and he'll wanna know why..
so should i keep it quiet, and trust him?
2007-02-07 01:55:35 · update #1
As a man I can give you advice from a mans perspective. First, I guess he is just as young as you. So most guys your age are gonna flirt and get flirted with. So unless your married, then its something you will have to deal with. I'm sure guys flirt with you? So you know how good it makes you feel. Some guys like to keep that feeling active. The best advice I could give you, is to follow your gut feeling. Either you trust him or you don't. There is really nothing in between. Being with someone you don't trust is really miserable. I have always trusted my gut feeling and I have never went wrong. I really can't say if he is cheating or not. I believe you are intelligent enough that you already know that answer. Good luck!
2007-02-07 03:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by HA HA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um wow....no i definitely would not trust that there isn't something going on..i mean...if he lies to his friends all the time (and he's apparently lied to the other girl) then he'll probably lie to you and i would definitely ask him about it. My bf did that to me all the time and i found out that he was messin with some other girlS so i pulled all contact. If he's gonna hide somethin from you like that get rid of him. The pain you feel bein without him for the first month or two is nowhere near as bad as the pain you'll feel bein with him and rememberin the txt messages and the constant questionin of his faithfulness. it all depends on what you're willing to deal with though...
2007-02-07 10:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off-- it might not have even been about you! You should be honest with him-- sit him down and talk to him and tell him your feelings. Explain to him that you feel he's not being faithful. Or that you're curious. And... why were you going through his phone? Were you checking up on him? If so... just tell him that you lost your phone and was texting yourself to find it and ran into the message....or something... but let him know that you are questioning his loyalty. Jut TALK, girl! And if that doesn't work... let me know, k? u can contact me by my other ID jenny_winnie2009 just email me, or something
2007-02-07 10:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of Two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend should both be totally be honest with each other, and if your not then thats when things start to fall, i know, me and my boyfriend have been together for coming up 9 months, we've been through alot and the best way to deal with things is been honest with each other.
Just ask him simply about it, but like be loving at the same time, like go up to him and hug him,kiss him and then ask "am i alright to ask something" and he'll be like "yeah sure" and then go into it.
You have a right to know whats going on love.
g'luck.x
2007-02-07 10:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't trust him and with good reason.
Tell him you admit to snooping and finding it.
Then dump his ***. Don't even give him a chance to explain it away like he has in the past. He obviously has no intentions of stopping his stupidity.
2007-02-07 09:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to know then don't look. stop obsessing about it and get to the meat of the problem. ask and then be lied to, why are you still there? Sorry but really it is so obvious.
2007-02-07 10:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear, years of experience here, men are pigs. Once a cheater always a cheater. And if he's acting all nervous and sneaky, he's a cheater. Sorry, kid. You deserve better than that.
2007-02-07 09:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only mention it if you are planning on breaking up with him.
Which I hope you are.
He will come up with a lie to explain it. Why do you want to be with someone who lies? Why do you want to be with someone you cant trust?
2007-02-07 10:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bombshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, it sounded like ou were being about paranoid until he made you think you'd never seen it, he's not vey bright is he. Just confront him about it and don't let him fob you off
2007-02-07 10:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont have any trust in your relationship maybe you should just get rid of him. its not worth wondering if he is lying the next time
2007-02-07 09:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by pudden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋