My wife hates me. She constanly talks about me behind my back. I tried to leave and divorce her and she stalked me and ransacked my place and then said I'd never get away from her. I also have a heart problem and two young kids. Oh yeah, my wife is mentally ill.
The only way I see out of this situation is a bullet in my head.
2007-02-07 01:54:17 · 16 answers · asked by Dr. Barker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
more details, ok. She has mental illness; bipolar disorder to be specific, she doesn't need a reason to hate me.
2007-02-07 02:02:34 · update #1
There is hope for you. If your wife is mentally ill why not institute her and she if that would help her and about her talking bad about you do you give her any reason to talk bad about you no one talks bad about someone else mentally ill or not if they don't have a reason to do it. Other wise she would be looking up at the sky and making mud pies or something if she was just mentally ill and she wouldn't know what hate was. So think about it and may god lead you in the right direction with this problem of yours.
2007-02-07 02:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by lsal_lizzys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a way...and a bullet in your head is NOT the answer. Where would your two children be without you, and left with a mentally ill mother? Is she under treatment? I would get a personal protection order on her, file for custody of your children, and leave again. Don't even let her know where you move to. It will be hard at first, but you CAN do it. You and your children deserve to live a decent life with love and respect. I realize that she is mentally ill, however, you can't fix her...and you can't let her ruin you and kids' lives. I wish you the best of luck, and stay strong...there is hope!
2007-02-07 10:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET THE BULLET! First, if you have family , get the support of your family behind you. Go to the athorities. Family services, the police, you need some support here! I don't know you or her, or the whole story behind this, but if there are children involved, how do you think this is affecting them? Something needs to be done as soon as possible. I will keep you in my prayers. Please, don't even think about a bullet in the head. If your wife id mentally ill, don't your children deserve to have a parent to care for them? If you are talking about putting a bullet in your head, this is evidently driving you to the edge. Get some HELP NOW! God bless you honey. God loves you, seek him. He will help you and your children get through all of this. It may not be easy, but you need strength and he can give you this strength. I don't know what else to say, but your question really bothers me, the remark about the bullet in particular. Don't wait any longer.
2007-02-07 10:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and really look at the situation. Have you tried to leave with the kids and get a restraining order? If a bullet is your answer , think about who your kids would be with....her! Try suggesting marriage counselling. There just seems to be something missing in your explanation. Why does she hate you so?
2007-02-07 10:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lorraine T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you move out and apply for divorce on the grounds of mental cruelty? I am sure with your wife's history of mental illness, no court in the world is going to turn that down. Can't you get a restraining order in the mean time?
2007-02-07 09:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her to the police everytime she shows up uninvited, speak to her parents if they are still alive and tell them if shes off her meds, or needs help to go on them. You can get an order of protection so the cops can arrest her when she violates it. Take an action that doesn't involve leaving your two young children in you crazy wife's care, suicide is always selfish and in this case you can't even think of it. Those kids need you. Contact a lawyer so you can do everything legally, and with the proof you need in a court of law.
2007-02-07 10:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are suicidal, you should see a doctor immediately. Depression is very treatable. Secondly, it does sound as though your wife is mentally ill, and that you and your children should get away from her. You should also get a divorce as soon as possible, so that your rights and hers are completely clear. I'm not saying that it will be easy, but you owe it to yourself and your children. You may have to get a restraining order, and you may have to get the police involved to enforce it. You and your children will be better off. Good luck.
2007-02-07 10:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to live with her ,i understand that your wife has a mental illness , you can't divorce her the court won't let you ,cause it's for the better or wost but you can put your wife at those place for people who has mentally problem but you don't have to live with her OK.If you believe in GOD ,you better pray I'm serious cause my husband his suffering of Bi -Polar disorder ,i know so...
Take care of yourself and the kids they need you too.Let the doctor seal with your wife illness
2007-02-07 10:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by BOOKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is hope but you must take that first step. Please see a specialist and a lawyer for you and your children.
Putting that bullet to your head is very selfish -- you will leave your children with a mentally ill mother and then they will have to live with the memory of their father not being able to handle it so lhe killed himself!!!
Your family needs help -- be the smart one!!
Good Luck to all!
2007-02-07 10:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Only Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of mental illness does your wife have? Is she on medication and getting medical help and attention for it? I recommend marriage counseling for you and for her to try to make this marriage work. What kind of a heart problem do you have? Did you not know when you married your wife that she had a mental illness. If you did then you chose to love her in spite of it all. Please make the best of the choice you have made and your marriage and love your wife and work on your marriage.
2007-02-07 10:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋