my aunt is very depressed. she's helping her church to grow, but every time she has an idea, people from the church put her down and critize her. I did everything I could to encourage her, but I feel that it's not working. Please help me with this. I need to know what to do.
2007-02-07 01:44:10 · 15 answers · asked by DANA P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If she believes her ideas could work, she needs another outlet. Maybe recruit one or two people who feel the same way as her and start the idea on their own. She can't constantly surround herself with critical people...and she can't change them. She'll have to change her approach.
2007-02-07 01:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Lear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly were your coming from, that happens to mu aunt as well. She's had lots of problems with other members of her church criticizing her and her family. She's been a member since she was a kid so she has basically grown up with these people and they still treat her bad. The one place where you think you aren't being judged or talked about etc is the worse! I really wish i could tell you what to do but i myself am in the same boat. I hope that we both can find an answer.
2007-02-07 01:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your aunt needs to step back and let others come up with ideas. They obviously don't appreciate her input. I find it sad that someone who is trying to dedicate themselves to better others is being put in such a negative position. Tell your aunt that she should let these other people deal with the growth of the church. When they do ask for her help, and they will, she should explain to them that she can not oblige and explain that she tried to help and no one wanted it so she has focused all of her energy on helping out in other ways. Maybe she could try finding another church to become involved with. I find that the most catty people belong to church groups. It's a sad thing for this to happen to your aunt.
2007-02-07 02:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy there's nothing worse than spending volunteer time for a good cause, and having ideas shot down. Ask her if there's another organization that would benefit from her great ideas. Like Boys & Girls Club, or whatever other Church Sponsored Organizations there are. Tell her to keep smiling, she's doing a great job. Others may not appreciate it, but there is someone upstairs that is keeping track of her good deeds!
2007-02-07 01:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by ઈтєlly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't listen to them. She believes in what she's doing and that's the most important thing! It's impossible to satisfy everyone. She's doing her best and others should appreciate that! She has to believe in your words! Maybe this church is not a good place for your aunt to realize her ideas. I'm sure there are organizations where people would be grateful for her ideas, help and engagement.
2007-02-07 01:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Martha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing is for her to pray about it. She should ask God to help guide her in the right direction and to deal with the hearts of the people who critizie her. Perhaps she's not in the church that God wants her in right now. She needs to ask him for guidence in all areas of her life.
She's obviously a strong woman and if this church doesn't want her than another might love to have her leadership.
2007-02-07 01:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideas should be rejected not people.Tell her to go straight to them and say just that.If she feels intimidated...and it seems you care for her a lot...you go and do it for her.Express how it makes her feel and how it influences her life outside the church as well.
Show them how there is one thing that brings all this people together to work for the same cause...that is God.And under God's eyes...we are all the same. If he is not criticizing her...they shouldn't either.
2007-02-07 01:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people at CHURCH putting her down? that's a problem with the church not your aunt. I know she probably wants to stay at her church but maybe she should consider another one.
2007-02-07 01:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by K J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that doesnt seem right, you would think people from her church would be more considerate of her feelings. all you can really do is be there for her, tell her how much you like her ideas and share that with her. you could even help convince people of why her idea is so good, (even if you dont think it is)
good luck
2007-02-07 01:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sh should talk to the people at the church and tell them that if thats all they are going to do then she is not going to keep trying to help them out. maybe it is time for a new church?
2007-02-07 01:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by EMMAS' CUTE_NESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋