I'm a mom of 2 boys (13 & 8) and a long time boyfriend. I don't feel I'm being respected, and I'm sick of saying the same thing over and over again. I do work full time and everyday I pick up everyone else stuff (even though repeatedly asking them to pick up their own stuff) Any moms out there done this and if so has it worked?
2007-02-07 01:32:43 · 13 answers · asked by frogs525 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well i have eight children six girls two boys and a husband i use to go on and on .so now if there clothes are left on floor ao anywhere in there room i fold them up dirty and put them back in there draw .even my husbands they soon got fed up .and if the house is untidy no friends aloud in .and if kitchen not clean they don't get fed .so now they all do there chores no problem they learned the hard way and now i can put my feet up why my husband cooks twice a week or no nookie .
2007-02-07 01:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by diane o 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Who's the adult here? Throw their stuff out, for real. If they don't respect their belongings enough to take care of them, they won't miss them when they don't have them anymore right? If you don't want to be wasteful, get a big garbage bag and collect all items found on the floor or wherever they don't belong. Put the bag of stuff in your car and drive to your closest family shelter or Goodwill. I know there are millions of children out there that literally have nothing and your children sound like they have too much to care about. Nice clothes. toys and electronic gadgets would go over very well with kids that can only dream of those things. Yes you probably worked hard to earn the money to buy those things in the first place, but do you want your children growing up to be disrespectful punks with no value of money or the things money can buy? I don't think so. Tell them once that this is your plan and if they blow you off or don't comply act on your words. If you don't act on what you say they will always walk over you and you will continue to have this problem. Today's children are mostly spoiled rotten brats, make your kids into mature respectful children who are happy to have what they have. They are both old enough to understand the concept of GONE. Also, when they throw the fit after they find their stuff missing don't give in, don't say you're sorry, say this was something you could have controlled.
2007-02-07 10:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! I tried that, thinking it would work and after a week my house was almost uncleanable and it took me triple the time to get it straight!!!!!!!!! It did not phase my 4 men at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My husband and three boys 7-6 and 4, could live in a pig pen!!!!!!!!! But the cooking thing gets their attention! When my husband had to get take out every night for a week, he had a talk with the boys to pick up behind theirselves and he started trying to respect my job as a housewife too!!!!!!!!! I do not work outside the home, but still want respect for the hard work I put inside this home!!!! I hope you get em straight, but sometimes I think the male species just really do not care about neatness or what it takes to get it clean!!!!!!!
2007-02-07 09:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes! For the older one, show him how to do his laundry..he is more then capable of doing it. Write out directions if you have to and stop doing his laundry. As far as stuff lying around, announce that all items that are not picked up are going into a garbage bag and taken away. I also take away privileges if the kids do not adhere to certain rules. For example, there is no phone, TV or computer until things are picked up and put away...period.
2007-02-07 09:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it!! I know what your talking about and yes I did it for awhile. After they get tired of having nothing to wear, since they couldn't get their dirty clothes into the laundry room, they figured out it wasn't all that difficult to do. No clean dishes? Sooner or later they have to get a dirty one out of the sink and clean it themselves. Their rooms are a mess? Give them a specific time to get it put away and if it's not, bag it up and "get rid of it". Store it somewhere but don't tell them you still have it. Let them think you tossed it out. May make them listen next time around. It's worth it in the long run. And don't be embarrassed if someone stops out and sees the place is a mess. It's not on you...it's on them. Go for it! I hope it works for you.
2007-02-07 09:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i do i ask them 1 to bring there washing down if they don't it stays in there rooms until they have nothing left to wear then i make them wash there own and peg them out and bring in this worked after a few times. And i do they same with there stuff that's hanging around i just put it in there room then they don't get any pocket money until there rooms are spotless clean i was giving myself a headache all the time shouting at them this works fine
2007-02-07 11:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a trash bag and start throwing any and everything, regardless if it a toy or clothes and see what kind of reaction you get. I bet you will see some things change. Tell them if they want it.. put it up and if they can't find it.. then check the trash. I have watched my 5 yr old have a complete turn around when he saw all his toys in the trash. He pitched a fit, but I dared him to put it back on the floor. Good luck with this.
2007-02-07 11:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand that, i've been there for a bit with my husband, but we are newly married with our little baby and so when things like that have started to happen i just nip it in the bud SO i'm not in your position years from now.
instead of totally striking, just strike on the stuff that affects them.
don't pick up stuff, but they probably won't care, so do things that are more hard hitting....like stop doing your bf's laundry. he'll get the point when he's wearing the same undies for 2 weeks!
with your kids...just elave their stuff lie around. make them whatever YOU want them to eat for dinner and if they don't like it, then they can make something themselves!
get creative with it. i wish you luck!
take car.e
2007-02-07 09:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through the same thing. Whe i finally get to the point that imm gonna flip out on everyone I just say to myself its not worth this. So i leave everything the way they leave it untill they start noticing how messy it is!! Guess what it works my husband will start cleaning then!!!!!LOL
2007-02-07 10:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by S F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I have but it didnt work! it was more of a job for me cause the house was a big mess nothing was taken care of and I had to do it all anyway. Maybe it will work out different for you try it out
2007-02-07 09:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by K J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋