How can i learn to forgive and try to forget what my husband did to me. I think he cheated but he said he did nothing what so ever, i am having a HARD time believing him..a part of me does, but its eating me alive, i want to rid the pain someone please help me, i need advice.
2007-02-07 01:31:22 · 11 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, there is nothing to forgive and forget unless you know that he really did cheat on you. You need to somehow find a way to prove that he cheated on you. Do you think it was a one time thing, or an ongoing thing? Can you check his cell phone records, or any other records? Usually a woman is correct with her instincts. You should trust your gut. The only problem is is that you need some kind of proof. It would be awful to throw away your marriage over an assumption. You need to do some detective work! Good luck!
2007-02-07 01:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the 2 of you are going to stay together, you need to find a way to put this behind you or the 2 of you will never be able to move on as a couple. Trust is an important issue in a marriage and if you feel like you can't trust him than you have to work through these feelings. You have obviously talked to him about it, but you aren't sure you believe him. Maybe counseling would help you to work through it. Get some kind of help. If you can't get past this, then maybe it's time to move on alone.
2007-02-07 10:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well first do your homework. find out as much information on this as possible. Go to your source the one who told about this or is this something that just came up and why? And if he says he didn't do it and part of you believe him then why are you making yourself sick over this? Look at your question. Learn to forgive him and try to forget it because you think he cheated on you? But what gave you that impression? Like i said before do your homework first before you assume or it will make a ___ out of you.You know the rest of that saying.
2007-02-07 09:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by lsal_lizzys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internal instincts are usually right. But if you have been under stress can sometimes be misleading.
Ask yourself how life would be without him and how much you really love him.
Then take it from there.
Also, if he says he hasn't cheated then really all you can do is put it in God's hands. Drop the subject, go on with life. These things have a way of surfacing. If he did God will bring the evidence to you.
Good luck, I have been there!!
2007-02-07 09:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always best to trust your gutt. You need to get ahold of yourself and either decide to forgive him or not. He says he did nothing, he may not have, but you feel he has. He is the only one who can rid the pain for you, if you want him to. He will need to earn your trust again, which does not sound easy here.
2007-02-07 09:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either you let go of the thought that he cheated or leave him for good dont keep living like this ,life is too short .
2007-02-07 09:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by jea1010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust yourself.
Investigate. You have that right.
Monitor what he does, watch, listen, snoop. Do whatever you have to, to not be in pain anymore.
2007-02-07 09:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he cheated?
Without trust, you have lost the foundation of your relationship...
2007-02-07 09:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone can tell you if you can trust him or not . You need to set him down and tolk it all out wiyh him . Pro help will make this go better .
2007-02-07 09:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter whether he cheated you...you need to think about the fact that you dont trust him?
2007-02-07 09:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by TheKid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋