How can i learn to forgive and try to forget what my husband did to me. I think he cheated but he said he did nothing what so ever, i am having a HARD time believing him..a part of me does, but its eating me alive, i want to rid the pain someone please help me, i need advice.
2007-02-07 01:29:24 · 5 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never underestimate your gut instinct. Unless you have proof, it's hard to do. Of course he's going to deny it - most people do to try to save themselves. Keep your guard up, eyes peeled, and ears open. If he's a cheater, it won't be long before you have proof. My ex denied it, called me crazy, called me every name in the book - and then I caught him. Then, he called me "the best investigator ever". Not the kind of victory I hoped for - but in the long run, better for me.
2007-02-07 01:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you can forgive and forget something you aren't sure even happened honey? I know all too well about women's intuition. I, too, was cheated on...BUT I did not condemn him for it until I knew for sure. Something else in your lives has you not believing him. Either he lies alot, he's unaccountable for things, or his stories are just too far fetched to believe.
Rather than let it eat you alive, play detective. Find the answers to the questions you seek. Just make sure that while you are doing this, you are doing it solely for peace of mind, not to have that "ah ha I caught you" moment.
And I know it's hard sweetie, I've been there. THere isn't anything any of us can say or do to help you over come the feelings you have. You are going to be the only one who can change that for yourself. you know this. So either you can sit around and accuse, or you can use that time constructively to get to the bottom of what is causing you to have these thoughts.
I wish you well and peace of mind and I hope everything works out.
2007-02-07 10:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't forget then you can never forgive.
Since you really have no proof, try not to focus on the negative.
If you keep asking him about it, then odds are you might want to cheat because your accusing him of it anyway.
Spend more time together, do more things together as a couple,
dinner,movies,etc.. give him more attention and tell him you would appreciate the same in return.
Maybe that can put a spark back into your marriage and give you the piece of mind that your looking for.
2007-02-07 09:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by marnan97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know for sure and he claims he didn't... sounds like you might need some marriage counseling. It's hard to get over suspicious behavior and it will continue to eat at it until you learn what it is you can do to get over it... until then don't let it ruin your relationship that you still have with your husband, unless of course that's what you want.
2007-02-07 09:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think he did? maybe its all in your mind.
2007-02-07 09:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by ritelec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋