Communication is a must on a relationship and this is what I gave to my husband, even though he never gave me the attention that a wife deserve.I want you all to know that his affair did ruin my trust and respect for him but it made me a stronger person. I am an independent person before I met him. When I caught him ,he tries so hard to denied it,but all the sign was there,for 2 months he set aside our kids and paid attention to this woman,he calls her 7 days a week for 2 months and vice versa.All that he say was they were talking about religion, and the bible,and they say prayer in the morning by cell phone,which I saw in his statement.I told him that I didn't believe him, he uses god for his lust and betrayal to my kids.For a retired officer of the navy, he really used his education.I told him that Im not afraid to divorce him and if he wants to go back to that slut,he got my blessing,but then he say he wants to make a man's of what he did. He thought I will want him back...
2007-02-07 01:26:31 · 12 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Appears that your trust with your husband is exhausted. Yet, you did recover from the breakup very angry at him. If the signs where there, any excuse he gives is lame. Even if it was for prayer, how is it that you were not informed of this Innocent gathering. How is it that it never came up in conversation?
This is a big decision to divorce over a sexual affair. Many things are to be considered. Logic cannot give you the exact answer to your man's inability to admit it.
Your man is unable to take the responsibility over his actions. I know this will weigh heavily on you if you went back to him without him giving you some answer about that encounter.
Its good to know there are women that can survive without a man at their side.
The unfortunate thing is that the kids will be the real losers in this divorce.
I see that he needs to explain to you what happened before you can gain some acceptable level of optimism in his word as a man.
2007-02-13 18:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Krambala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you.
You know the nature of your husband therefore the ball is in your court.
Sometimes moving out is a good solution because the other party has a lot more time to think.
Dating is always more appealing than marriage, but my experience tells me many a marriage has strengthened by separation.
Your husband needs a reality check and you need a bit more respect from him
2007-02-11 22:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always told me, that if you have proof and he still denies it, move on. If he says he still wants to be with you, now that you've brought up the D word, tell him he's moving out-you ARE the wronged party, and that you're from the "Show me" state. Give him x amount of time to make amends and show you the reasons to keep him around. If he can't or won't make the time, file for Divorce, and start moving him out of your mind as well as your life. The wedding vows apply to both!
2007-02-15 06:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he denies it so he will not have to be responsible for ruining his marriage. now that u have threatened divorce it is a different story he wants to work on it, so he won't have to split the assetts, but he didn't care about it before. he has still failed to be honest with u and be accountable for his choices. personally i wouldn't want to be married to him, as even if u do forgive it, when is it going to happen all over again with him? move past him and divorce is not all that wrong when u consider the consequences of remaining with him, since he has not been forthright and honest and insults you by denying something u can clearly see u need to divorce him.
2007-02-07 09:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this feelings of betrayal. I caught my husband and he admit it to me ask forgiveness and feel so sorry of what he did, so far as of now our marriage is healthy. but with regards to your feelings girl I know you must move on. Leave him if you think his no longer respecting you. Cause honestly if he will do it again I will Not hesitate to dump him. As of now since I can see that he really work on the chance I gave him. I'm taking the opportunity to enjoy while supply last hehe. But seriously girl i'm thankful to god things work out on us.
2007-02-15 02:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there & done that........my advice........walk away and make a life for yourself. It's hard, I know, but you can do it. If he cheated once, no matter what the reason, he'll do it again.
If your as independant as you say then walk and take care of yourself. I did it. After 20 years, I walked, put my self thru college and now I own my own home, car, and make more that he does. And I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud. OhYeah!!....I've met a wonderful man who treasts me like I'm a queen!!!!
2007-02-15 07:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by shgrbabe_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial is just a way of not taking responsibility, and if someone does not take responsibility then they really don't want to change. make it clear to him that before any second chance can happen he has to come clean and accept responsibility. If he does not he will probably cheat again.
2007-02-14 19:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is stringing you along. Don't trust him. Time to move on.
2007-02-07 21:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him --many more may come in your life.
2007-02-13 18:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by nvp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why men denies cheating my husband did too
2007-02-13 19:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋