hi there need some help,pregant 20 week, lost my sex drive help?

Question

i love my fella already have one toddler, but i have lost my sex drive i feel ugly, my bits an bobs dont look right, i feel dirty an horrible ladies ithink you will know what i mean an the thought of sex makes me feel nervous paranoid all sorts shall i just give it a go, ang help please its doing my head in my fella always tells me i look sexy etc its not him you know its me

Answer 1

if you dont want to have sex then dont, it makes things far worse the more you think about them, so put it to the back of your mind and maybe it'll creep back up on ya. your man will love you regardless of sex or not. if you really feel he is in need of love then theres other things you can do, if you know what i mean. lol xxxx

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. When i was pregnant with our second child..i hated sex...could'nt even think about it. It was a strain on mine and my husbands relationship..but we got through it. It all about the hormones. I think that has a lot to do with it as with my first child..i craved it..all the time! this time (my third) i enjoy it when i'm in the mood..but i need to be seriously well-cuddled before! as long as your cuddling and kissing lots...just make sure your other half knows how you feel. It can be hard...but its nice to get back in the saddle after all that time!

I wouldn't just 'give it a go' as you will be nervous and it will be painful, putting you off more. Give it a couple more weeks, you may want it again...and sex while pregnant can be really good...( speaking from experience!)

Answer 3

if u don't feel like doing it than don't u should not feel forced and ur fella should understand. And i felt the same way about myself when i was pregnant ugly,fat ect.. but i had a very high sex drive u know u r beautiful and u should not feel any other way embrace the fact that u r caring a child.

Answer 4

I,m 19 weeks also have a 2.8year old and this time just don't feel like sex at all, think had it about 4 times since last period so one of them must have been conception last time late October, just don't have the urge not the unsexything, just not in the mood, my husbands been really god about it but deep down I know he must be frustrated and annoyed. I honestly think it stems from last time when over due when I kinda forced him to have sex in hope it would bring me on he kind of said he didn't want to but would for me then said he felt like he'd beeen accosted by a whale I was huge.

Answer 5

I know exactly what you mean! I felt the same way for a while and still sometimes now...(I'm 32 weeks). I was scared that if I didn't have sex he would feel "pushed away or not wanted" or something like that, so I just gave in. Once we got started I was good to go and you will be to!! LOL!

Answer 6

You arent losing your sex drive! All sorts of thingscan influence how often you masturbate or have sex - maybe youre stressed, perhaps tired... sometimes for no reason at all people feel less sexual for a while. Dont worry - worrying will only make you feel even less like 'relieving yourself'! Relax!

Answer 7

Hi, I really feel for you. Did you lose your sex drive with your first pregnancy?
Try and grt it into your head that your are 'blooming' and in my very limited experience, men find pregnant ladies extremely attractive. The baby is perfectly safe as long as you don't do anything 'weird' and it doesn't cause you any distress and discomfort.
Finally and most importantly. your guy finds you attractive.
good luck with your new baby
cheers Kate

Answer 8

your body will have changed a great deal, and your self esteem is low, towards the end of your pregnancy it is normal for sex drives to go into over ride!