That he will change and do anything, but won't let you go. What does that mean?
2007-02-07 00:48:17 · 20 answers · asked by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It means he is the one in "control" of the relationship. If you really want it to be over, stick to your guns and don't let take that control or he will never let it go and he will become abusive.
2007-02-07 00:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to control the situation. People don't change - so don't believe him when he says he will - he CAN'T. I spent 10 years with a man who made the same empty promises - what a waste of life. I'll never get that time back. If it's over for YOU - move on.
2007-02-07 09:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready to let go of the relationship. He is saying what ever he can to get you to change your mind. If you truly want to end this relationship, then don't give him false hopes that you will still see or talk to him. He can't handle rejection very well. Let this kind of guy down easy. Unless he has hurt you physically. Then never talk to him again.
2007-02-07 08:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is not ready to accept the fact that it is over and will promise anything so you don't go. Some do as they promise but by the time you tell them its' over, there is no going back. He is in denial and doesnt want to let go. You've made up your mind and he has to accept it.
2007-02-07 08:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to be in control of every situation. I have found out that it is ok for a man to leave a woman, but if a woman tries to leave a man, he get possessive and even will go as far to kill her if she tries to leave him. That sounds to me like it is on the borderline of an obsession. Women better be able to tell obsessive behaviors early on in the relation shop.
2007-02-07 13:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a man chooses to stay and work on the problems means he loves u and wants u in his life, it is only when a man doesn't want to work on it and he is no longer making any promises that the relationship is truly over. he won't let u go because he loves u.
2007-02-07 08:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you justify in your mind that its over?
If you can't he will tell you its not & you will take no for an answer.
If you can't 100% justify to yourself that its over, you can justify it to him. When you can, he will standup & leave ..
Think about it, if he has something to say which will change your mind, it might be very useful .. may be your relashionship may have what it takes to break through a tough period!!
2007-02-07 08:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you better hope it's not a fatal attraction thing going on. When he said, "no it is not..." he means the opposite of what you said. In other words it's not over until he says so. Girl you better run, lay low for a couple of days......
2007-02-07 08:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by channel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do not like change and sometime they do not see it coming and if your love for him is gone you need to set down a write a letter or any other type of Media and tell him way it over. the move one. i then notes that you were not joking on your love for him.. Good luck and i sorry for your lost love.
2007-02-07 08:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is definately in denial, and thinks he will change to suit you. He is a loser and will only change temporarily until you cool your jets.
It's time to move on and kick this loser to the curb. If he still persists have a restraining order put on this loser and if he violates it one time have his butt arrested. Keep doing it until the message sinks into his thick controlling mind.
2007-02-07 08:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋