i have a complicated situation with the girl whom i love . well she left me and when to another man to marry him . and now she always send me messages telling me that she married that man to be sure that her love towards him has dissappeared and that she wont think about him in the future when we will be married me and her . knowing that i love her so much . we are not together for 8 months till now , and i still love her so much . and she's coming back to the country where i live soon . what should i do ????????????? can i forgive her ??? take consideration when u answer me that i still love her so much .
2007-02-07 00:23:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DO YOU TRUST HER? ARE YOU SURE THAT IF YOU GET TOGETHER AGAIN SHE WON'T LEAVE YOU AGAIN FOR SOMEONE SHE LIKES MORE? IT'S A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION THAT YOU ARE IN. SHE'S COMING BACK. DID SHE DIVORCE THE OTHER GUY? IF SO, AND IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER AS MUCH AS YOU THINK, THEN FORGIVE HER. START AGAIN. BUT DON'T HURRY WITH GETTING MARRIED. FIRST, IF YOU CAN, START LIVING TOGETHER TO SEE HOW THE THINGS BETWEEN YOU WILL WORK OUT. AND LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!!! IF IT TELLS YOU THAT THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG, THEN MOST LIKELY THERE REALLY IS SOMETHING WRONG. YOU WILL FEEL IT. DON'T FALL TOO QUICK FOR EVERYTHING SHE SAYS AND PROMISE. SHE HAS TO EARN YOUR TRUST AGAIN, BEING SHE WAS THE ONE THAT LEFT YOU.
2007-02-07 00:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, and that is what I am taking into consideration while answering this - that you still love her very much.
You are not accepting the truth, and in fact, you are really running away from the situation. Could you please think, just for a minute, just think of this, if this guy she married was you, and this same scenario were to happen, would you have ever accepted it ?? I mean, your wife living with you, and then walking away to another man (which is you, in this situation), claiming that she married to get the love disappear ??? (which I am sure her husband is not aware about)..
Are you really really sure that you want to get with a woman who actually tells you that '''I am getting married because I want to make sure that my love towards him has disappeared ?'', I mean, you cant be that blind, are you ? Forgiving is different, but going back to the same circle where it has no good positive results is another thing. You loved, she left you got married to another guy, and now she has the guts to come back to you one fine day saying she does not love him anymore, then she'd have you in her arms, and then one fine day she'd have no more love for you , right ???
Honestly, I dont even know why I am replying. The choice is yours. good luck...
P.S. I still cant get over the fact that people get married so that the love disappears, doesnt it mean there was love anyway on the day of marriage ? And then waht ?? it disappears....thats the craziest thing i've heard of...unless if her husband is schizo..but then, this is not it right..
2007-02-07 08:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about how things were when she was with you. From the sound of it you're in a tough spot, although you love her it doesn't look like she has the same sincere feelings for you. If I was in love with someone I wouldn't have left him, the first thing on my mind is how devastating that would be to him and how heart broken he would be. I'll probably just break down just thinking about how much my selfish decision of leaving someone I love would hurt him. If she loved you, she would have never left you. It might be hard for you but you need to find someone else. Getting back in a relationship with her again there is no guarantee that she might do it again. You need to get in a healthy relationship, a relationship where the other person will have the same love and consideration for you that you have for her.
2007-02-07 08:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by channel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love this person .. she left you for someone else & now that she knows what she is missing, she wants to be with you.
The question is you know what she had, has & wants .. Do you know what you want?
Will be happy to be with someone who has proven that she can leave you for someone else? Who did fall in love with another man & left you .. Will you not think of that person when you will make love to her? What will you tell to your childern about their mum, if you guys go that far ...
Even if you guys get together it is a perfact recipie for disastor ..
Just ignore your feelings towards her, ask her not to contact you & move on ...
2007-02-07 08:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she loves you so much that she married someone else? You'll never really forgive her - you'll spend your life together full of resent - until she decides that she doesn't love YOU anymore.
2007-02-07 08:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just playing mind games to find out how much she can get away with she dont love anybody she is just in love with the idea that she can make people do what she wants .Do yourself a favor find someone new she is gonna be playing with head until you finally get tired of it get out now
2007-02-07 08:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by slp9209 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell me who has not made mistakes in life ... yes, offcourse she made big mistake.. but now she wants to get rid of it.. just give her a chance, if you love her and if she is sincere on you... with out any hesitation...
but one thing u have to be careful at any point of time , you should never pin point about the old incidence....
2007-02-07 08:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Racingred 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for me , forgive her , yes Jesus Christ always forgive those who asked forgiveness , but ..... dont accept her any more go and find another , so many fish in the sea ,
2007-02-07 08:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run my boy and dont look back shes messing with your mind
2007-02-07 08:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is serious about u and not just using u as a rebound then its a possibility, make sure she gets divorced first and do what makes u happy...this is your life! Good Luck!
2007-02-07 08:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋