Please believe, writing this even sucks. I left a great job in 89. My purpose was to direct my focus into a more lucrative path. I gave up family blah blah blah. The real facts, I studied Fashion in high school. attended an art school, and became a buyer years later. In 89,I left my position to become a freelance fashion stylist.
Okay, now I am going to sound more bitter. I came from a world that stylist would slit their throat before they worked with a celebrity. My background is advertising and making the ad complete. Oh did I mention I am black!!! Never been a problem for me or white people. I hear from my black friends it is. WHATEVER....... I am reaching out to you guys for help. The chances I have taken have paid off. Life has changed and I cannot figure out how to pull up my straps, stop feeling sorry for myself and buck up. Along with a lot of people, business for me in the last administration did not fair to well.i am a blk. rep. I need more work and a positive outlook
2007-02-07 00:21:14 · 4 answers · asked by vperry6 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You need to boost your self esteem and rearrange your thought processes a little, that's all. The best suggestion I can give, is to buy this book, "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. David Burns. It literally saved my life from depression. I had a great career and made lots of money and stuff, but there's so much more to life. If you would like, I can "talk" with you... just email me.
2007-02-07 00:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There seem to be 2 main issues here, career and self esteem (coupled with beating yourself up).
Reflect and decide on your objectives and values - what is important to YOU, and not your friends. What career and life path do you want. If you understand what you need, as well as commit to attaining these things, then your life is likely to be more harmonious.
If you make realistic goals that motivate you, you then need to work out a plan to get there. Strangely, it just sometimes need a focus of your energy, rather than having yourself make conflicting choice and follow multiple paths that don't really complement each other.
Beating your selfup and low self esteem-
Perhaps you could include these within your values and decisions about where you're going. If you decide that lowering your own self esteem is not acceptable, it will be much easier to stop it. Maybe you haven't just yet. Our decisions in life are so important to us!
Don't start with demands that are unreasonable, as this would put more pressure on you, which you probably don't need just now.
If you stop the self-hurting, it leaves a gap for you to spend time on nurturing yourself back to better self-loving. If possible make sure that you communicate your anxieties/problems with others too, so that you don't carry the full burden on your own shoulders.
Anthony Robbins has written some good books, such as 'Awaken the Giant Within'. I recommend studying this and I feel it could help you too, as I had some similar issues before I moved on.
Good luck dude! Rob
2007-02-07 08:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rob E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the phrase "Count Your Blessings"?
Over the last 13 years I have had to morph myself into many different career paths; it's NOT easy.
Rule 1: Never go where you're not wanted.
Rule 2: Be prepared to learn.
Rule 3: Accept others for what they are, but don't be afraid to let them know their good and bad points if it has an affect upon you.
Rule 4: Adapt to life's changing circumstances.
Rule 5: Pinch yourself every morning, feeling happy to be alive.
Rule 6: It may buy "things", but money cannot buy happiness!
Remember the latin "Nil illegitimam sub carborundum" because if you don't, your new motto will be: "Semper in stercorem, solis profundis variebit" (Always in the brown stuff; it's only the depth which varies).
Above all, smile - it costs nothing and works much better than a frown.
2007-02-07 08:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing is to stop worrying about what other people are saying about your choice of lifestyle. If you like what you do and don't feel being black is a problem, then why make it one? Then, focus on what you can do professionally to get your work in front of people who could hire you or refer you to others. Start networking and take lots of business cards. The best way to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to start getting busy. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Just be yourself and have fun with who you are. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. All you have to do is be true to yourself and follow your heart. Good luck.
2007-02-07 08:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋