Girls what would turn you on and get your sex drive back after having children I need to know what turn ons i could try and work on to get my partner jumping in the sack again???
2007-02-07 00:19:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You just need to make her feel good about herself and feel sexy again. I felt awful about my body after I had my daughter and lost a lot of confidence - you're also very tired all the time and don't always feel like it. I soon snapped out of it - my advice is to go back to basics - kissing, touching, hugging, - get some sexy underwear for her if she likes that sort of thing, to give her a bit of confidence and she will feel good wearing it. And take it easy - don't rush her - and you will be fine.
2007-02-07 00:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by JoJi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whichever way you do this, the number one aim is to make your parnter feel sexy again. Try being romantic, caring & thoughtful but without it seeming like you are doing it just to get sex as the end result.
Alternatively, there is nothing more of a turn on than a guy who doesn't want to have sex! - call it fooked up female psychology but it's true. There is a fine line between doing that & making a woman feel unwanted sexually though, so you have to let her know you fancy her/want her but then say your not going to have sex with her. It takes the pressure off & the psychology of wanting what you cant have comes into play!
Good luck & be patient.
2007-02-07 00:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first get someone she is comfortable to watch the kids. Not someone as a quick fix to sit with them, or she will be distracted all night. be creative in what you do and get your ideas together and make it a night she won't want to forget. Take her shopping to start let her pick out an outfit that you both think she looks sexy wearing. Then get her hair done, let her get a manicure. Then send her an inviation to the date. Call her and tell her you are running late and will meet her at the location at a certain time. Then send a limo to pick her up at your house, she won't turn it away, the driver will have instructions on where to go, and exactly what time to get her there. Wwhen she gets there you are waiting for her with a smile on your face, flowers in your hand and ready to have a grr8 night of love, romance and more
2007-02-07 00:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all make us feel that we are sexy. I gave birth not long ago and is true my switch was off. But I met this person and what we do is try not to do everything the same day or moment. We do a little bit of thing, and then later we do a little bit more... He lets me with the feeling that I want more. He makes me feel that I'm taking off doing simple things but then he stops before we get to something more intimate and I just can wait for the next time. Good kisses, the ones that take your breath away. That turns me on... hahahah Good Luck!!!
2007-02-07 00:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Majo's Project 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'd start with trying to be nice more and helping out with the housework etc let her see you're a good guy, then i'd start it simply like starting over again ie take her out on a date or if possible get the kids minded overnight and cook her a nice meal have a few candles burning some nice music etc just take it one step at a time its the little things that help.
2007-02-07 01:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in your question. If you've had children with this person and don't know what turns her on it's a sad day. Try speaking with her instead of asking here it could help. Afraid everyone is different and what pleases one may be a real turn of for another.Best of luck!
2007-02-07 03:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her in the sack give her some time alone so she can relax you watch the kid give her some money for a new hairdo and some clothes, and book a hotel room with dinner for a night
tell her how much you love her and all that
2007-02-07 00:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be whatever turns her on at that time, but remember that having and looking after kids will take alot out of her during the day and may not be in the mood or too tired to have s*x with you!
2007-02-07 00:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the first time you tried to woo her? when you just started dating?
Women need to feel desired! Take her shopping, buy her a fab new outfit, then take her away for the weekend and spend the whole time in bed! It'll come back, you just have to show her you still want her!
Be Patient!
2007-02-07 00:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by fairyprincesscorinne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something nice for her, even if your at work all day. get home take the baby off her hands for a while, make her a brew, run a bath light some candles, put the baby in bed and go wash her hair. tell her how you appreciate what she does and what she means to you. make HER feel important not just the baby, she was there first after all. good luck it worked for me
2007-02-08 10:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋