My husband is a diesel mechanic and he works really hard and when he gets home he's all dirty and nasty. We have a huge bathtub so every night I always have it fill so he can soak and relax. He has no sex drive anymore. Is this a stage a man goes through. I do know for a fact he is not cheating on me. How can I get him sexually active again without the use of medicines?
2007-02-07 00:03:06 · 10 answers · asked by Kickin' Back 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably not likely you can with him working that type of a job and at his age. Being a diesel mechanic takes a toll on a guy, it's not easy working on those big engines. I know i've done it.
It's been my experience that it takes a couple of days just to rest up for the next full week of work in that occupation at that age. You can try spicing up the love making.
But this is what i would try first. Try learning some very good relaxing full body massage techniques. This will help more than anything to get him relaxed. Once he's relaxed he may get very eroused and if this happens maybe perform oral on him or just climb on and ride him slowly until you get your climax and then make sure he gets his.
I'm 52 and just thinking about you doing this to him got me a little interested in doing my girlfriend before she goes to work this morning.
2007-02-07 00:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he works hard all day and comes home tired, why don't you do all the work (sex) and let him just relax? You could "satisfy" him while he's in the bathtub or after when he's laying in bed. Don't make him do any thing, just lay there and enjoy it. (This will take some sacrifice from you, but if you're really worried about it, then it will be worth it) During the week he will be tired, so maybe not expect too much during the week. Let him rest up and then tell him you hope he's rested up because you have big plans for the two of you for the weekend. Talk dirty to him and let him know what you wanna do or will do to him. Get him stirred up and excited for the weekend with you. Have you tried an erotic movie to watch together that may stir him up some and get him in the mood? I have heard that men's sex drive does go down when they're older while a woman's drive goes up. Men are also visual, so put on a sexy nightie or something he can look at and get in the mood. He obviously loves you, works hard and comes home to you every night so that's a great sign! Just ask him! What is going on and what would it take to get him more in the mood?! He may be perfectly happy, but would want to know if you're not happy. Just tell him!!
2007-02-07 09:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont care how tired a man is...they aint never gonna turn down sex but i agree with the others...try being a little more agressive...u try initiating sex...watch adult films together..let him watch u play with toys...i know u got an imagination put it to use....u cant be old fashion anymore u gotta release that inner freak once a while..men get tired of the same routine....and last stop running his bath like u his maid or sumthin.....go head girl and bring sexy back!!!
2007-02-07 08:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know about him, but if I came home to have a bath run for me, I would jump in with my wife and get cleaned up and then get dirty all over again with her ;)
2007-02-07 08:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by finished 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dress up in sexy underwear & put candles in the bathroom. Turn the main light off. If he asks what you are doing, tell him that you are going to wash him tonight. Whisper those words in your sexy voice. Wash him slowly & seductively. Good Luck!
2007-02-07 08:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Another Planet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU always "have" to fill the tub? Stop acting like a robot or a trained monkey, and be a sexy wife!
2007-02-07 08:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by ^..^ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a romantic weekend somewhere when he isn't so tired.
2007-02-07 09:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
touch him when he is relaxing, kiss him before he falls asleep, do little tricks like that to ignite him
2007-02-07 08:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kehgohar R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rip off your clothes. and meet him at the door. tell him you don't care how dirty he is. you need him, need him, need him, right then and there.
see what happens...
2007-02-07 08:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by corkscrewpirate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him what u got
2007-02-07 08:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by T-Money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋