2007-02-07 00:01:05 · 17 answers · asked by Another Planet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deception is one of those fatal mistakes people make in a relationship. It kills everything you have together. Once you know it is out there, you may be able to forgive it at some point and bury it deep. BUT can you ever forget that it happened? Every time you think about what it means to love someone and be honest and faithful it will be there like a slap in the face. I don't know the details of your situation. However, I have been in a similiar situation, only married while it happened. If you decide to move on without him, don't take HIS actions out on another man down the line. NOT ALL men are like that. There is someone out there for you. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-07 00:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something you have until you lose it and he lost your trust when he cheated. He has no right to be upset with you, he is the one that ruined your trust. Are you so sure you want to live this way? Once a cheat always a cheat. He would have to prove a whole lot to me for me to believe he has changed and won't do it again. Next time he hates, I'd say, I didn't care much for your cheating either.
2007-02-07 08:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by groovymonkey135 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you have a trust issue with him, why hold on to him? He’s obviously not happy and it doesn’t sound like you are either. He’s lost the trust that you had in him and at this time it doesn’t seem as though he’s going to get it back anytime soon. Why stay in a relationship where both parties are miserable? Why would you not just end the relationship and find someone that you feel can be trusted?
2007-02-07 08:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine that he hates the feeling that you don't trust him.... and definitely if he does not cheat you... "If"
To see if he cheats you is difficult, but there are a few measure points:
- Frequent called numbers and not from his friends (check land line and mobile bill).
- His money spends on days you are not with him.
And if you want to catch him in act, you have to plan something such as:
- Take 2 days off, tell him you will go on a company trip. And follow him (make small changes on yourself and borrow car from your girlfriend.
2007-02-07 08:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by John Th 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to realize he lost that trust when he cheated on you! He also needs to know that the trust needs to be earned and that it's going to take a while for you to get over it, and for that trust to be earned again. If he loves you he will do everything in his power to earn that trust back!
2007-02-07 08:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tami H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his decision to cheat on you was a conscious one and there is no excuse or reason to do what he did. How could you possibly trust him after he goes behind your back and does something like that? I could never ever trust a cheater again!
2007-02-07 08:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who could blame you? Never mind what your "man" hates - you should be the one that's angry. Trust is a very hard thing to regain after this type of betrayal. Chances are, it will happen again. What then?
2007-02-07 08:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to understand that it may take a while for the trust to return, he can't get angry over it. he has to acknowledge that what he did caused u alot of pain, and your just not going to go back into trusting him that easy, it is a process just like the process that he went through when he chose to cheat on u. his adultery just didn't happen it took alot of thought and planning, so he has to stop expecting life to just go back as it was. takes time and he has to be patient.
2007-02-07 08:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not trust him, why in the world would you keep putting up with it. Why are you selling your self short. he is going to keep doing it to you, because you, are the only one who will keep putting up with him. Read books on self esteem, and stop selling your self short, you deserve better, but only you can decide what you want out of life. Leave him, and make a better life for yourself!
2007-02-07 08:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust him?? He has to earn back your trust and if you want to stay in this marrage get counselling as I doubt you can solve this problem on your own.
2007-02-07 08:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋