How do you KNOW that you are loved?

Question

Love comes in many shapes and forms,My question is this, how do you know beyond a doubt that you are loved? Be specific.. why do you believe that anothers feelings are what you think they are? How do you know that you are not just believing what another wants you to believe? Think about it, what makes you so sure?Please state which form of love you are talking about,eg parental,soulmate,friendship, ect

Answer 1

The real answers is this: YOUR HEART TELLS YOU!!

Now let me be more specific and at the same time pose a question to you. How do you know that you are hated?

You know you are loved when the person loving you (be it parents, friends, lover......) put your feelings over theirs. There's no better way to measure love that this. Someone will put themselves in a position to have their feelings hurt so that yours would not be. If you've got someone who will leave the job to be at your side because you need someone at your side... that my dear is love and you being loved... there are so many examples but I don't think that I need to go on. Love is real, it exists, but is sooooo very rare that it is of the utmost importance to recognize it so that you will not miss the opportunity to cherish it when it is presented to you.

Here's hoping true love comes your way and that you recognize it and take full advantage of it.

True love you cannot miss if you are able to be yourself with that other person or persons without any fear whatsoever of being judged by that person or persons.

Answer 2

Oh, the conditions stipulated would confuse or put most people off the track.... Yet the question is a thoughtful one !
Well, unconditional love does not need any support of relationship like parental, soulmate friendship etc... instead true love strengthens such relationships !
Any love 'due' to such relationship, or to sustain the relationship would clearly 'tell' as you pointed out... 'you are just believing what the other wants you to believe'... So true love seldom gets 'revealed' UNLESS the other person is well evolved to easily perceive such love !
And, the many forms that you refer are just manifestation of the quality of being a loving person (in case of unconditional love), according to the situation's need. The conditional love is 'mere mutual benefit scheme' and needs frequent 'repacking' for effective 'marketing' in a new shape, form !

Answer 3

One thing is for sure, you are loved very much if your lover or in some instance secret admirer, maintain open channels of communication. They are honest with you, especially if you are in quest for the ttruth about anything that is shrouding your mind over. They tell you i love you personally, via mail or on the phone. They want to be always with you, you are their world as you can see they are contented with only your heart in their hand. They don't go and looking around through the windows for spares. ( am I a spare?)This relationship is one-on-one no boundaries or fine line to read as how 'a friend' should act like one or how a 'lover' should.
For a friend, he also ask you how are you doing,they don't have to be honest about anything with you . They tell you they care about you, sends you email inciting what are the characteristics of a real friend. They never tell you they love you directly, they would but in the general idea like emails showing friendship is characterized by unconditional- that is indirectly.

Answer 4

Once I was walking alone or so I thought this to be so and I was touched deeply by a love I had been in search of yet, I knew not how to embrace this love to accept it and all that it promised yet, my life pursued it everywhere to all the places I was taken, there it was not to be found , spared with my life I came to know love as it was and is. Love, a touch from the far off distant time of purity. This is all I can say, for beyond this is indescribable.and only lived.

Answer 5

You know when you are truly loved by that person when they have been by your side through thick and thin.

Life has thrown both my husband and I many difficult situations in just the four short years of marriage, yet everyday he wakes by my side next to me. We don't agree on everything, and we like anyother couple have our petty arguments but at the end of the day it doesn't seperate us from being together.

Answer 6

what a loaded question! a lot of us take love for granted. it's always been there (from parents, siblings). we expect to always be able to count on the ones WE love for support. in my own experience, the love of someone (soulmate, friend), is a trust issue. i am currently "in love" (and i use quotation marks because apparently there is a difference between love and in love) with my b/f-friend-lover of the last 9 years. HE apparently is NOT in love! his actions always and still does show me that he loves me and constantly tells me how much he loves me. however, not in love. i guess to different people, the depth of love is equated to their own experience with love especially from parents (or the lack of). i am quite sure of the love i give out, be it to family, my b/f, co-workers and so on. i have a huge heart, but i am learning to be very careful with it.

Answer 7

I'm going to answer in the order that you ask...1st when someone call you and you answer...They don't have to acknowledge you but they do...If you didn't exist why say anything
I'm answer your question and I could of skip it...Unless it's fantasy
LOVE...2ond It's call selfish...Love is always given...You can receive it but again Fantasy LOVE...You are thee only one who can
give and feel...3th Know one tells you how to walk or think unless
you want them to be in control of you...Remember you give that power...I think if you force a person to Love you than you have a
puppet because you made them but if someone loves you the best way they know how...Than accept it...There's no greater power than LOVE Baby! Love Ya!

Answer 8

If my answer seems too long, you can skip to the last paragraph to get the short summary version.

First, philosophers don't typically equate knowledge with absolute certainty. By casting your question in terms of certainty, you make it trivially true that knowledge of the sort you want is impossible. As Descartes demonstrated, I can doubt all knowledge other than the immediate reality of my experience. I don't think you intended to get that radically skeptical, so instead I will pick a relative level of certainty that is high, but not absolute. I know that my wife loves me with roughly the same level of certainty as my knowledge that I love her. I think this probably gets at what you are really asking. You are implying an "other minds" problem (a classic question in philosophy). I can have direct experience of my own mental states, but only indirect access to the mental states of other people, so how can I ever know with reasonable confidence what they are thinking or feeling? How can I know that they are not delusional or lying?

For me, the answer comes down to a certain level of faith in my intuitions, and faith in my own way of living. My wife says she loves me, and I have no reason to think she is lying. She demonstrates her love for me every day. I see it in her acts of love and in her body language. Sure, I could be wrong, just like I could be mistaken in my belief that the sun will rise tomorrow, but if forced to bet my life on her, I would place my bet without any hint of fear.

But you might still be wondering how I can have this level of faith. Well, it has a lot to do with how I live my life. I am open, honest, and forgiving, so there is very little motivation for people to lie to me, unless they are trying to sell me something, but my wife is not trying to sell me anything. She has nothing to fear from me, and she knows this, so once again she has almost no motivation for lying to me. We have an open marriage, so if she is attracted to another man, she doesn't not have to cheat or lie about anything. She can tell me what she is thinking, feeling, and doing without fear that I will get jealous or vengeful. So why should she lie? If she were to lie to me about anything at all, it would probably be to protect my feeling because she loves me. If she stopped loving me, she would have no reason to pretend that she still loved me. Even if she falls in love with someone else, there is no particular reason why she should therefore have to stop loving me. She has my blessing to love as many people as she can love, and she knows this.

We've been together for 8 years and know each other pretty well by now. We have a lot of shared history. I would have to be a major jerk to make her stop loving me. I have enough faith in myself to know that I will never be a total jerk, so in a way I guess you could say that my faith in her love for me is based on my faith in my own love for her, and my faith in my own lovability. I can know that I am loved so long as I know that I am loving and lovable.

Answer 9

soulmate- I am happy and satisfied
friends-enjoying the moments with them
parents-I am raised disciplined & with a kindheart

Answer 10

The other person's sacrifice for my well being. That is how I know I am loved.