very hurtful
2007-02-06 23:46:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sometimes families are shamed, but that's because they can't get past their own hang-ups and homophobia - not because having a gay child is a source of shame. Children don't hurt their parents because of their sexuality - parents hurt their children by refusing to accept them. You can't change your sexuality - you are what you are. You can accept and love someone no matter what their orientation, though, like a good parent should.
But not all families are - many families support their children when they come out, and are very proud of them. Ever heard of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)? They're a support group with chapters all over the country, made up of proud familiy members of LGBT people. So, no, not all families are ashamed. Many are very supportive.
2007-02-06 23:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
A parent who does not love their child unconditionally is selfish and has no business having children. Having a child is a concious choice, if you "accidentally" conceive its because you weren't using adequate birth control, the ultimate birth control being not having sex. Once you choose to have and raise a child, you not only have the responsibility to provide food, house, health care, education and safety, you also have the responsibility to nurture their soul. Loving a child unconditionally does that. It is a parents responsibility to love and protect their children no matter what, and in the case of a homosexual or bisexual child, its even more so to protect that child from the ills of society. What responsible parent with a child does not teach them about safe sexual practices? What responsible parent doesn't advise their children about what to look for in a good person and what bad people to avoid. What responsible parent does not set a good example for their children by being tolerant and socially acceptable?
I know there is very little reality in my above statements and questions with real parents. People spit kids out and then don't know how or don't want to actually do the hard work of parenting. They bring their own backgrounds complete with their fears and predudices. And parents seem to think kids can complete something in themselves that is lacking. That's not your kids job and you cannot live vicariously through them.
Shame is a societyl standard, and not the same everywhere. My kids don't owe me, what your parents probably think you owe them. I love them unconditionally, no matter what.
2007-02-07 08:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your family is shamed by your homosexuality...then shame on them.
Intelligent parents and family members today do not condemn people for being gay. Only ignorant butt wipes do this.
2007-02-07 07:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Talk about hurtful, where do you get off presuming all homosexuals have families? People are weird, looking at life with eyes that see through their realm of experience.
2007-02-07 09:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL
I almost fell off the chair at this one. Where do you people come up this crap. My parents love me and have no shame with who I am. Shame comes from being told you are wrong not from being wrong. There is difference.
You really don't have a grasp on reality do you. If a parent is ashamed of their gay child, then it is they who need to look within themselves.
2007-02-07 09:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, but having a d!ckhead like you in the family would bring shame.
2007-02-07 14:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by pissed off with abuse, goodbye! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignorant bigots and hate preachers bring shame to the whole human race.
There is nothing shameful in being exactly as God made you, whether that is LGBT or straight.
2007-02-08 12:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not my family, my family loves me MORE now since I came out.
They're wonderfully supportive and happy that I am no longer living a LIE!
2007-02-07 09:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whoever would turn their back on a family member simply for being gay should be ashamed! if a family feels "shamed" then they are a hateful, sorry bunch.
2007-02-07 08:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the individual family. Some families would be horrified about this and others will be much more accepting.
2007-02-07 10:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋