I've told loads of lies (I'm a very good liar) and wouldn't hand in a wallet full of money if I found one. I've got loads of secrets like debt and credit cards that my partner doesn't know about. I've come into money and spent it and he doesn't know. I still manage to get a good nights sleep. Can't wait for your replies. Am bracing myself!!!!
2007-02-06 23:29:56 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MICHAEL-T Were we separted at birth. You're great!!!!!
2007-02-06 23:44:25 · update #1
No big deal until someone steals your wallet full of money, clears your credit funds, runs you into a lifetime of debt and until your partner sleeps with your best friend and tells you he is helping her clean her car. You will wonder how such a devil can sleep well
2007-02-14 17:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in honesty and integrity. I've too have found many wallets---I never have once kept the money. I've always turned the wallets in to the police department or have located their owner via information in the wallets.
Honesty is the best policy. If you lie to others you're lying to yourself as well. The secret debt and credit cards will all sneak up on you. If your partner finds out that you've been lying the trust issues in your relationship will be done. Trust is earned and you are not winning by lying.
Hopefully this partner you have will ask you to run a credit report before you and he ever marry. I would also suggest that he demand a pre-nuptial agreement to protect himself from your frivoulous spending and lying.
I wouldn't be proud of the fact you are a liar!!
2007-02-14 22:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't remember one secret that I have to hide. I have reached a blessed age and if you ask me then I will tell you. Even when it didn't sound so great.See, a person that lies is a person that has fear, and I fear no one. I can stand up and say what I have to say with morals and respect, I can work for what I want so I don't have to take anything that doesn't belong to me, God has bless me and my kids. What you have to realize EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE AND ALL THAT YOU WILL EVER DO WILL COME BACK TO YOU.You brag about this as if you have no problem with what you've said and usually things like this make me upset, but I'm really heart broken to hear you say, I sleep well at night and not worry about your soul that to me, sound like you have proudly handed over to the devil. To confess that you are a good liar at that. I'm gonna pray that God convict you of this sin that you seem to enjoy. Your partner is in for a rude awaken and the day that they find out they are dealing with an unfaithful person, they will be crushed. Oh and I used the word unfaithful because a liar isn't faithful in the truth. Really if you will lie, you will also cheat, steal,and incapable of having feelings for others, that's why you are able to sleep at night. God bless you honey and I feel so sorry for you and your mother.
2007-02-12 19:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Angel...it doesn't sound good.
We've been married almost 37 years, and no doubt we both still have some things we haven't told one another, but I doubt at this point that they're anything earth-shattering or that would put our relationship at risk.
What you've mentioned seems "money related" although I suspect that your attitiude may extend into other topics as well.
Personally, I couldn't live with someone I didn't trust. It's just one of the "building blocks" of a good relationship.
I'm not saying that couples have to disclose every little minute detail to one another; just that I don't see the point of hiding things.
When we got married, we didn't have much money, so what we made went into one pile. I'm sure that's how it is with most couples.
The relationship has always been about "us."
We succeed or fail - together.
Good luck with your relationship. I sincerely hope that the s__t doesn't hit the fan one day.
Take care.
2007-02-07 00:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me say this; honesty is everything. First of all the lies will always come out! Always! And when they do the hurt is ten times what it would have been. My ex husband lied to me for 14 years and also lied to my daughter all that time she was 2 when we met. He recently confessed to having some very inappropriate feelings for my daughter. Just think he had been alone with her a thousand times. Just think what he could have done. Now you tell me that honesty isn't important.
2007-02-14 10:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by kathy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody really gets into trouble from having too much integrity (except maybe in politics, and even there it's tremendously important that the "inner circle" believe they know the real you). In the end, it's just way simpler to be who you really are. It causes you less emotional confusion, and you earn the respect of others because they know you are who you say that you are.
Your assertions (e.g. "I am a good liar") are paradoxical: on the one hand you feign integrity (although in an anonymous mode), so it must mean something to you, and on the other hand, you admit to having no integrity.
2007-02-07 00:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different levels - lies that hurt no-one, lies that are betraying. I've told tales, and think things that nobody will ever know - but there's a limit. Some things ARE better off being kept quiet. No harm, no foul. Being honest in your relationships with family and loved ones shows your character, and reflects your values. Sleep well.
2007-02-06 23:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what they say about that big wheel that turns. Trust me it will turn and bite you on the butt when you least expect it. No partnership can survive based on lies and deceit and believe me it's only a matter of time and you will find that out for yourself. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot ?? Think about it and change your ways before it's too late. Good luck !!
2007-02-06 23:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a very good liar is nothing to be proud of. I always say that what goes around comes around. Do you like being lied to??? Because if you dont think it is a problem to lie and keep things from your partner, chances are he will eventually start doing the same thing. What kind of relationship will you have with both of you keeping things from each other??
2007-02-06 23:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Takita F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate liars. There is good and bad in lying but I rather tell the truth whether it hurts the person. It's not good to lie especially when it comes to finances with your partner. Financial issues are one the cause why there are divorces out there.
2007-02-14 10:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by Day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋