Should I eat what is offered or express desire/need/taste etc.I work hard and earn but I get food against wish

Question

Wife: "Do NOT express/ tell. Eat what is given.
You are .... I eat all."
She to all: What will you eat?
Why I am her enemy No. 1? She eats of her choice. I never force her to eat of my choice. Giving unwanted in balatkar. She is not listening to my need. Am I a begger / servent / slave? If I eat silently, all is OK but if I, once in a week / fortnight, I ask for something, she start shouting. Best gift to husband on karva chauth should be : food of choice of husband. I never ask for fancy / complicated food. I want simple / normal / fresh / seasonal / healthy food prepared and offered with peace. Why all rights of husband are snatched by ladies? She is OK but some time I should also be OK. Due to unwanted food, I am unable to listen other things. She ignore me, I am forced to ignore her. All relatives call me bad but none listen to my need. Why ladies are selfish? She want roti, kapra aur makan of her choice but ignore value for money. ALL asks me to eat silently.

Answer 1

may be on your days off you can offer to get the meal and then cook what you would like.
Maybe she is not used to what you eat and you may have to take your time in getting her to change but you should get your choice of food as much as she does. She may not actually know how to cook it even?
My husband eats what I cook (with his/my preferences in mind) when he is working and when he is off he often cooks what he wants to eat, and if I cant eat it (as he likes spicy food and I don't) then he cooks mine separately

Answer 2

i think you are badly facing a miserable condition,b'coz good food is the only thing man deadly needs,but don't worry life is never easy.
look try this
0. start giving her smiles
1. when you wake-up and go to the breakfast table,don't start eating but say your wife "GOOD MORNING" i know that's not so easy after this kind of experience but do it.at least for some days.
2. someday take her to a restaurant and bring things what she likes.
3. then a day after give her a call from the office.
4. she will be in a great surprise but make her more surprise by giving her a gift.
5. then some day after returning from the office give her a smile and just ask her whats cooked for dinner.
AND i m sure your problems are finished for ever.

Answer 3

Proverbs in the bible says: "It is better for a man to live in the desert than in a house with a contentuous wife!" Show her love and tell her you love her and see if she starts showing you respect. Do this often not once. It might take a little time to convince her, but you will in the end. Its worth a try!! If she doesnt, show her Ephesiians 5:33 that commands a man to love his wife and a wife to respect her husband and that is unconditionally too. WOmen desire to be told that they are love and need to feel loved and if you are not giving her that she has lost respecty for you because she thinks you dont love her anymore. But better than that, get the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs for her next birthday or better still for valentines day. Ironically the cover is red too!! It is an excellent book and if she reads it it will do something positive to her life. It does work.

Answer 4

Bring her out for vacation may be she is boring like the food. You can also bring her out to the restaurants once a while for a meal. There she can choose her food and you can choose yours.

Answer 5

To keep your house cool, try to be cool and adjust as per the requirments of the time , place and conditions.

Answer 6

just go out and eat whatever you want ignore her and learn to be a man and take control

Answer 7

your only solution is to take her out on a beach in private..talk lovingly and then see

Answer 8

Thank GOD I live in the good U. S. of A!!!!

Answer 9

How old are you, really?