My teenager is concerned that her boyfriend of 3 months never calls her at home. He seems sweet and shy, but he won't even tell his parents he has a girlfriend.
Thoughts before my girl hits the bus stop for school? Thanks.
2007-02-06 22:55:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm gunna guess that maybe she is his first girlfriend. He doesn't want to catch a razzing from the family.
2007-02-06 23:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by major b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my son is teenager,, he would not tell me
if he's got a girl friend.. He's not comfortable.
It's not serious relationship anyway,, just a teens
thing..
Even the adults they have to wait for the right timing
before the introducing happens..
My friend's boyfriend had two children (remember
they are children) but before my friend was being
introduced to the children they waited for the right time..
how much more are the teenagers..
Your daughter's boyfriend never call her at home for
privacy reason most probably..There must be some
members walking around the house.. so.. . ..
Tell your daughter,, don't worry it will come,, but don't rush
and pressure him or else
she'll just blow it.
2007-02-07 07:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any youngster you talk to will approach this big step in life with different results, often predicated by parents and peer pressure---so I would imagine he will be a bit slower and more cautious with this new dating thing...thank god for that--otherwise you might have some guy causing your daughter a bad time on the bus and you'll be driving her to school. They all need to concentrate on school work and keep the dating light---remind her of that---dating will come naturally when the time is right--maybe the birds and bees talk is in line here--you certainly don't want another baby around the house. Well tell her to relax and have fun---this guy will come around soon enough. Best of luck
2007-02-07 07:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are still young parentsmight need to help delevop the social skills. My 13 year old has a "boyfriend", who is 14.
We mothers, together, worked on their first formal ball, and all parents chaparoned a "dinner date". His mother also helped him arrange a tea date (yes, he took her to a formal tea), mom and I had ours a couple of tables over.
Having a girlfriend is a big social step that he may need some guidance with. Next time he is over ask if you can contact his parents. I am really surprised you have not, I would not allow a "boyfriend" unless I was really confortable with his family.
2007-02-07 07:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a teenage boy. Sweet and shy as you say, he is probably scared someone else will answer the phone if he calls. Telling his parents means 20 questions, questions a shy boy just can't answer - I mean who finds it easy to confess all to mum and dad.
2007-02-07 07:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by smooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing they're closer to 13 than to 18?
They're growing and developing. They're emotionally immature and not quite sure how to handle new situations yet. He obviously hasn't learned how to communicate his feelings clearly.
He's probably worried that his parents ask him all sorts of questions that make him uncomfortable (do you love her? are you having sex?). Or maybe his parents are over-bearing control freaks and he's worried she won't live up to their standards.
2007-02-07 07:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is either embarrased of her or he is afraid of what his parents might do or say around her. Shy guys are easily embarrased. She could aske him why. That's always the best way to get the answer.
2007-02-07 06:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be uncomfortable yet with himself..maybe also he comes from a family that would rip on him terribly for anything at all. You know, hypercritical? I've seen that sort of thing before, that's why I say it.
2007-02-07 07:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if hes worried about his parents finding out....or even his friends or something...then he might be embarassed about her? Maybe she needs to find a better boyfriend that will pay attention to her more...
Being ignored in a relationship sucks...and it hurts. Ive had a BUNCH of boyfriends growing up. Im 21 now, and im marrying the one guy i was dating in 10th grade of high school....weve been together 6 years.
Tell her that story....
it might help...
2007-02-07 06:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jay L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he's not rushing things, what's the problem? Tell her to relax, it's not like she's ready to get married next week, is she?
2007-02-07 06:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anomaly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋