I have this girl who has been a good friend of mine. She has had a history of bullies—her being pushed, shoved and picked on at school since 11th grade. She is now older. Nobody is a bully to her anymore since everyone is scared of her boyfriend who is in a gang. Lately she has been playing around “those punks will pay for what they did” in a smiling but hysterical matter. I was thinking maybe she is hurt and just talking. Should I be worried?
2007-02-06 22:08:56 · 9 answers · asked by Cyrillus R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Payback isn't the main issue it's the gangsta boyfriend. She just doesn't' need this in her life, who is to say she hasn't traded general bullying for a personal bully?
Bullies are not part of growing up, they are people who are choosing to hurt and harm other people.
Your friend doesn't need a gangsta boyfriend, she needs a real friend who will help her deal with her pain and fear in a healthy manner.
Be concerned, yes because this path she has chosen is destructive and is no better than the bullies.
2007-02-06 23:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is one thing I cannot stand, it's bullies. Bullies should be "paid back." I have absolutely no concern for the bullies. My only concern is for your friend -- that she doesn't do anything that would get her into legal trouble.
Note: I also despise this idiotic attitude that "well, bullying is just part of growing up; it's natural." Nonsense! It's destructive and unnecessary. Moreover, bullying is not restricted to growing up. There are plenty of adult bullies, particularly in the workplace and anywhere that driving motor vehicles takes place.
2007-02-07 06:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Taiwan90851 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would distant my self to her and concentrate on my studies and find other friends to hang out with, not gang related. You should not be worried,it is not your problem. Bullied and bullys interaction is a part of growing up.That is a childish experienced .Soon we forget about these.Revenge is not good,anger to anger won't solve the situations.
2007-02-07 06:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your friends, yes. You should be worried. Ever since she had a gangster for a boyfriend she has been influenced lately by him.
This will affect her greatly like their will be a tendency that she may become a bully herself.
2007-02-07 06:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Itachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bully thing fades with time. The longer you go, the less it matters. Revenge can manifest in many ways, not just physical.
I wouldn't worry.
2007-02-07 06:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As her friend sit down and talk to her. Find out how she really feels. Let her know that you are there for her when she needs someone to talk to. If you feel that she might do something, get help as soon as possible. Tell her parents or your parents,anyone that will listen.
2007-02-07 06:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by willy-wonka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should you be worried? well that would depend on if you were one of those bullies. if not then ur probably out of her line of fire
2007-02-07 06:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Dashes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! Tell a teacher or someone at the school! Now! Please!
2007-02-07 06:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shuold u?
2007-02-07 07:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by potter_kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋