Is it our differences that really makes it so hard to get along?

Question

Ok, so my question is kind of hard to explain…but i´ll try, if you would be so kind as to bear with me.

Ok so if you think about it, any relationship you want to have with any person, be it your family or your friends or your partner…you all have to work for them to be good relationships, you know…you have to make an effort…you can love them, but love in itself just isn’t enough….so my question is…why?

Why do we always have to make an effort to actually be able to have a happy relationship (and sometimes even an effort isn’t enough)? Is it because we are so all so different? Is diversity really such a big factor in that, that we just cant all automatically get along…even or maybe I should especially if the other person is someone we´re in love with?

I guess I just don’t understand the main reason is for this…What is it about the our nature that requires us to have to try so hard?

Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. I appreciate it very much. =)

Answer 1

Well, love through thick and thin...I try if I care but oftentimes the other does not want to put forth that effort. People play favorites. My understanding is that the mind is very complicated. You can't understand why love isn't enough. I don't see how else to explain this. I still don't have sooo many answers to my lifes questions. I think finding someone that will take your **** no matter what is really rare especially when everyone has their own **** to deal with including their emotions....I am answering this from my heart.