2007-02-06 21:59:22 · 28 answers · asked by iluvmy6girls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't. He doesn't. Get out.
2007-02-06 22:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't doubt that your husband does love you. The problem is, he has anger management issues. You need to get out before things get any worse. He may say he loves you, he's sorry, he will change, but the reality is, he will never change as long as you two are together. You need to pack your things and leave. If there are children involved you should have been gone a long time ago. The lesson that you could be teaching your children is that it's ok to hit people. Love does not equal abuse. Love is hard, but it's not hurtful physically.
Get out. If you hits you once, he's a fool. If he hits you twice, you're the one to blame. I don't mean for that to sound harsh, but people will only treat you the way you let them treat you. Get into counseling. Call your local woman's shelter for support.
Good luck honey!!! You don't deserve any of this. Realize you're worth more than this weak little man that needs to hit you to feel like a man!!!!
2007-02-07 07:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by lil_hem_n_va 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband still loves you very much. His major problem is controlling his anger and resorting to physical abuse on you. I would recommend that you seek a protective order immediately, which would require making a report to police. They will then serve him the order and arrest him if he violates that protective order.
Your husband definately needs to enter anger management and mental health counseling to address very many issues he has with regard to his behavior. If he won't do this the abuse will continue and get worse until at some point in time he may take your life or that of someone else.
It's very possible to change, but not without counseling, it won't be an easy thing for him to do, and to be honest 90% of people who try this method counseling and anger management eventually relapse.
If you don't think a protective order will work, get one anyway and contact the local YWCA nearest to you. They have domestic violence counselors available to assist you in moving out and placing you in a safe haven where your husband cannot find you or get at you.
Do it now, today, don't put this off. Your life may depend on it.
2007-02-07 06:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey! You need to get out of that abusive relationship before he kills you! One of these days, he's gonna beat you so bad, you won't make it. Do the best thing for you, get out NOW! You know what the sad part is - he probably does love you, but doesn't know how to handle his feelings. He sounds like he is all mixed up inside his head. I would tell him that if he doesn't get some professional help, there is no chance that you will come back to him. You have to be very careful in this situation. Since he has a bad temper, be careful when you tell him you are leaving him. As a matter of fact, I would do that over the phone, for your safety. While he is gone to work, get your stuff out and either get to your familys house or a friends house. You need their support very much right now. But, you need to get out now, before it's too late. May God Bless You and Protect You!
2007-02-07 06:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband might be a misogynist and that is someone who takes out all the way he feels (anger) about women on his wife. On the other hand I have to ask you whether the way you speak to him is not necessarily what inflames him to the point where he retaliates. WHen women have no respect for their men, there is trouble. Did you know that in Ephesians 5:33 it commands men to love their wives UNCONDITIONALLY and women are commanded to RESPECT their husbands unconditionally meaning not criticising and nit picking and bad mouthing them to others. If thats happening - what can I say! Read the book Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. He tells you how to better the situation. Its a matter of choice my friend!!!
2007-02-07 07:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is hitting you, there is no love there. This person thrives on being in control. Hitting you is a control technique. When he tells you that he "loves" you, that is also a control technique.
No man should lay hands on his wife, except in love and kindness. If your husband is hitting you, then you need to leave immediately. You do not have to live your life this way, and you're kidding yourself if you think what he's doing is love. There's no way to justify what he is doing, so there is no need to even try. To do so is not rational thinking.
Leave the house and get away from this man. Your very life could depend on it. Please, go.
Best wishes.
2007-02-07 06:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by C J 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sure he loves you, why wouldnt he. He has got the control he wants when he hits you. I was in a abusive relationship and people that are close to me said he hits me because he is insecure about himself. I think that is why most guys hit women. They are not happy about something about themselves. Most guys that hit women dont fight men. Im not saying he dont love you but he needs help!! There is NEVER any excuse to get physical.
2007-02-07 07:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Takita F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting and love do not go hand in hand! Hitting is abuse and you DO NOT abuse the person(s) you love! HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU! Please call somebody..a domestic violence hot-line, for some help. The hitting will only get worse if you allow him to continue. If you have children and they are witnessing this behavior it can be devastating to them! Leave this man before the situation spirals out of control and he really hurts you or your children!
2007-02-07 06:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Someone once told me that love doesn't hurt. It's hard to grow up with your dad beating on your mom. If you have kids, you should think about that. He doesn't love you if he can hit you. If he did love you, he would get help.
2007-02-07 06:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to love yourself enough to leave this rotten SOB. NO MAN SHOWS LOVE WITH HIS FISTS. LEAVE HIM BEFORE HE PUTS YOU IN THE HOSPITAL OR WORSE. You do not need to believe his lies anymore. After you leave him get some counseling so that you will not fall for another man who will beat you. You are a strong worthwhile person. Leave him and make a great life for yourself.
2007-02-07 06:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not love you He just loves to hit and abuse you! GET OUT NOW!!!! Run do not walk and seek counseling and help and file for divorce ASAP. Why are you still there? Pack your bags today and leave and do not tell him where you are going just get out and get out fast.
2007-02-07 06:07:55 · answer #11 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋