With the number of marriages crumbling nowadays do you think people should first try live in relationship with their partner and then go for a marriage if they are satisfied ?
PS: Maintain the so called "Indian Culture" when u reply
2007-02-06 21:43:12 · 28 answers · asked by jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, because attitudes and behaviors change as soon as the couple actually get married. The couples true selves finally surface and that can either be a good or bad thing. However, living together isn't very helpful because they are still courting each other,having a good time while still trying to impress one another and their future in-laws before they marry. After the wedding, the masks,girdles and dentures come off and they have to deal with the real nitty-gritty of life which is rough.
2007-02-06 21:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by MsE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! The more you know about a person before marriage, the better. At least you will know where the rocks are under the water.
Dunno much about Indian culture. But basically some older folks will find it hard to explain their daughter living with a guy. I am sure that is changing and fewer families are bothered about these things nowadays.
2007-02-14 21:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First see if there is a precedence in your family. Ask yourself will your parents agree. How about the family circle? Based on this you can make your own judgement. Or go ahead be bold set an example for more to follow.
By the way, yes I would give it a try in this changing world and many divorces of the arranged marriages.
2007-02-07 20:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an irrevocable contract. Live in is just like trial where there is no sincere relation. If there is sincere relation then there is no need to live in but he/she can marry. What difference it makes when live in and separate and marry and divorce. The sincere love and affection and binding to live together until death is the core of the marriage. If people start live in, then there is no need for any marriage. Live in is a type of avoiding responsibility which is not correct. If offspring comes in the live in who will take the responsibility.Marriage is the thing which implies duties, responsibilities and happiness. When married couple are having divorce in large numbers imagine the fate of live in couple.
2007-02-06 21:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by RAGHAVAN N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what feels right. If you think you are ready to take on living on your own, you're ready to take on living with someone you love. Marriage is that bond that connects you with someone for life. Living with them before that is a realization of what it will be like. There is nothing wrong with that. You want to make sure you will be ready for that instead of divorcing in the long run. Considering it is what happens nowadays. Yeah it shouldn't be that way, but it is a fact.
2007-02-13 20:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmm, maybe to a certain extent. i think marriages crumble simply because people marry w/ the incentive " if we dont work oh well, or well get a divorce" living w/ somebody can deffinetly change things, cause your nolonger together for recreation, its the straight up contract of marriage full 24/7 everday life. i think a couple should try living together after an engament has been set. thats sounds resonable i suppose.
2007-02-12 01:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no need for that. it really changes alot of tmes after the i do's so there is no point. you should already have an idea what the person is like and you also have to change and be 2 for 1 that is what marriage is about if you cop out and decide when the going gets rough leave well that is how there are so many divorces.
2007-02-12 17:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think the problem with marriage is whether you live together or not. I think its about expectations, women have changed their social status yet their marital status remains stuck somewhere in the 50’s. We have to give up our names, and suddenly become supermothers. I think the problem is that people are unable to communicate how they feel.
And being on Yahoo Answers I am seeing the same type of question over and over. And its mostly, how do I say this or how do i say that?
2007-02-12 08:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many cultures doesn't allow this but as the world and time and lifestyle is changing, one should try this out so that they could find out if they could stay with each other through out their life or not rather than going to the court and face the lawyers and the Judge and all those silly questions and finally getting themselves hurt from deep heart. In this modern time we all are running fast nand due to this our mind has changed a lot, so i think one should go for live in relationship.
2007-02-06 22:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Stealth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, its not a wise idea. But our culture does not permit us to. We have our own family values and belief system.
But the so called Live -In system is seen in western countries. Today, Westerners have realised & want to follow the Indian family way. Because the Live-In system has failed miserably.
2007-02-09 02:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋