It's been 2 years by natural methods and about 1 year under metformin and 2 months on clomide. We discover that I suffer from PCOS and I don't ovulate.This next month is our last tray with Clomid because the Doc doesn't do more than 3 treatments. I'm exhausted and feeling on the way to depression, my husband tells me not to loose my hope, he sees our baby in any little girl, he is dying to have a baby. I want to adopt if the 3rd try doesn't work, with our own baby or not I still want to adopt, he is not against but sometimes I think he really deserves a fruit of love like that one. Should I just give up...I don't want to go with IVF and spend all that money, am I selfish for not want to keep on trying?
I just think there is so many kids that need somebody to love them.
If i had the money I would adopt 10 kids!!!
2007-02-06 21:40:05 · 13 answers · asked by claudysha 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The exhaustion is normal. Not fun at all. I admire your love for kids. Trust your doctor. Pray together with your husband. There are miracles that have happened in our world, the here and now, especially regarding your issue. Things can change. Give your faith in God a real test by relaxing and turning it over to your own creator!
2007-02-06 21:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by desertflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all take a few months and destress.My husband and i tried for seven years and all sorts of fertility treatments.At almost forty i told him that i had had enough.Fortunately my doctor got us on to an ivf medical trial so the first round cost us nothing,although i fell pregnant i miscarried,we had a two month break and then had frozen embryos implanted and got a son.The most cost is with the first round as any extra embryos are frozen and then it is only the cost of having them implanted.I know it is expensive but i feel unless you have tried all avenues there is always hope, and adoption is a long wait.I wish you all the luck in the world.And another thing 15 months after my ivf baby i fell pregnant naturally.
2007-02-06 21:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by justsuuuzeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not selfish for not wanting to keep trying. PCOS is such a problem - has the metformin not regulated your periods? Adoption is a wonderful thing to do - another thing to contemplate doing is foster care.
My husband and I decided to not go the technology route.
2007-02-06 22:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you have to do is stop stressing over it if its going to happen it will
don't stop trying to have a baby of your own
as a foster parent you can love adopted kids just as much as you would if you gave birth to them and there are so many out there that need love and a safe home i wish you luck on what ever you and your husband chose together and you will do well what ever it is
2007-02-06 21:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally. Getting pregnant should not be stressful under any circumstances. You should talk to your husband and draw the line as to how far you can go with trying to get pregnant. Start looking into adoption programs together. Adoption can also be pretty stressful.
2007-02-06 21:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey22_jp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that adopted children are the fruit of your love. Even if it doesn't have his eyes, it will have a part of him that only loved children have.
If I were you I would adopt AND keep trying.
2007-02-06 21:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by JenGem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well God blesses people with children, maybe you two aren't as prepared for children as you think. Or maybe you're just meant to adopt, pray about and see where that takes you. Whethere you should adopt or not. God bless!
2007-02-08 14:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you really do need something to relax you. try reflexology, many woman have become pregnant after having a course of reflexology treatments, please look on internet under reflexology and infertility. you can read some success stories. if nothing else reflexology will relax you and help your body become ready to create a new person.
2007-02-06 22:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by rachel c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should say keep trying and if it does not work is because out there is a child who needs your love and you will find it.
2007-02-06 21:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by itah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt hurt to keep trying
when the time is right it'll happen
2007-02-06 21:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by BoChOi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋