We have been going out for just a year now and still just as in love and happy. I've always been a paranoid person and go through phases. But the other day i noticed she had a couple of very thin scratches on her bum after she got out of the shower. I asked what they were and she said she didn’t know it could of happened in the shower or from her belt that has beads all over it. They defo were not there the day before. I’m sure im just being paranoid, she only went to work in the morning and came straight back in the evening and i know everyone in her office as friends. Its not like you wouldn’t remember where you got them from.??? I don’t know they were to thin and deep to be a mans scratch, more like a cat scratch.
What shall do? Am I being paranoid? How do I get rid of my paranoia i know this has to stop because i don’t want it to ruin our relationship. I am getting better just thought someone could give me some advice that might help, apart from my mates. :)
2007-02-06 21:22:28 · 19 answers · asked by charming 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are being a tad paranoid. Just getting dressed sometimes I scratch myself accidently with my nails even when they aren't long. You need to trust her! Relationships wont go anywhere without trust. I have been there too! Just catch yourself when you start to get suspicious and tell yourself that she loves you and would never cheat on you. Take a moment to think about it. I'm sure deep down you feel that she would never do anything to hurt you like that. You wouldn't want her to be suspicious of you, would you? Don't pester her though because that can drive a wedge between you. It can be very hurtful to her if she thinks you don't trust her... I'm sure you don't want to hurt her feelings. I wish the best!
2007-02-06 21:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step to ruining a good relationship is constant jealousy. Trust me you can get a few scratches and not know where they came from, even on your bum. She may have gotten them from her belt when she pulled her pants up in the bathroom. Who knows? The worst thing you can do is constantly think she is messing around on you. Even if you don't say anything it will show in your attitude. If you can't trust her you shouldn't be with her and if you can trust her there is no reason to be so paranoid. If she was really messing around you woud feel it in your gut. She would have an explanation all ready to explain the scratches if they were from another man.
2007-02-06 21:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are being paranoid!!!
If you are not smart enough to forget about scratches on your gf's buttocks..you are heading for a major loss of respect in your relationship.
In my estimation, a guy who would get worked up over something so inocuous as some buttock scratches which could be explained in a dozen ways without faulting your gf, might be seeking his own way out of the relationship.
Did you see "Stallag 17" with Wiliam Holden? There was the prisoner who had been a prisoner for well over a year who got a letter that his wife had found a baby on her door step and she was going to keep it. The prisoner kept telling himself that "I believe her...I believe her." As a result he maintained his sanity and his marriage and his wife's story might even been the truth.
If it would make you happier, follow your gf to work and watch where she sits down... You might find a bench with splinters which would solve your very little problem.
2007-02-06 21:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to trust her otherwise she will go. Scratches like that can happen through anything. I get scratches and marks all the time and dont know where from. Its just one of those things in life. Just talk to her about how you feel before she thinks you are accusing her of things and your relationship falls apart. How would you like it if she keep asking you things like that? put yourself in her shoes and then you will realise what you are doing.
Good luck
2007-02-07 01:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being paranoid, it's not fair to interrogate somebody who is innocent. If you keep studying her body for marks or bruises then she will hide genuine ones and then you will think she's having an affair or something and it will all get nasty. Anyway, two tiny little scratches hardly indicate a night of passion do they?
2007-02-06 23:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to stop being paranoid - or you will drive her mad, shes only been to work!! I always seem to get bruises and scratch marks,must be a girl thing!!
Don't worry, plus men don't normally scratch anyway..thats just weird!!
2007-02-06 21:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by money bank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get unexplained scratches and bruises all the time and it certainly does not mean I'm cheating on my husband! Cut her some slack and learn to trust - it's the only way you'll find true happiness.
2007-02-06 21:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r bein a lil paranoid, she could have done it herself in the shower avin a wash its not a big deal hun let it go u no the truth really its just ur mind bein abit over active seriously i dont think u have ne thin to worry bout good luck n chill out !
2007-02-06 21:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just being paranoid. You can get scratches without knowing. If there are other signs, then maybe you can start worrying
2007-02-06 21:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Adora Belle Dearheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about couple's counseling? Or individual counseling? Sounds like you don't trust her and maybe there's a reason for that and maybe there isn't. But, trust issues are not conducive to a healthy relationship.
2007-02-06 21:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋