2007-02-06 21:12:31 · 9 answers · asked by la boucle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See a professional therapist, try to see yr partner through eyes of love and forgiveness...pray for divine intervention
2007-02-06 21:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication and commitment to each other no matter what and working through problems and hard times together. Marriage counseling if need be... Divorce should never even be an option. Okay think of it this way marriage is an option and so is divorce. Which option is more important in your life? I choose marriage in my life and i work hard to maintain and keep my marriage happy and fullfilled. Marriage is what you make of it so the more you work at it and put into it the less likely you are to divorce. You can also think about it this way. If you put alot of time and energy and work into like say your job you become successful at your job so to me if you do the same things with your marriage then you will have a very successful marriage and life together.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-02-07 05:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you must commit to yourself that no matter what you will not divorce. You will not give the other reason to want divorce. cheating, beating, being hateful or whatever. Always ask for forgiveness even if you think you have done nothing to be forgiven for, you are probably wrong. Always respect and honor your mate they deserve it for putting with you
2007-02-07 05:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by George B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy them the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. 99% of divorce is as a result of those two ingredients missing from a relationship. If there is mistrust and jealousy and insecurity on one side, the person feeling like that has a problem with rejection and needs to address that. Rejection is a terrible things and most of us have had some form of rejection in our lives. The problems arise when rejection has taken hold of people and sunk its roots deep into their lives. It can come forward as jealousy , insecurity, fear of divorce and loosing ones partner, self pity, self hate, loneliness and isolation, despair and hopelessness, depression, misery, idle comments about wishing to be dead, comments about suicide, etc. People like that need help to overcome these feelings that are negative and note OVERCOME THEIR FEELINGS. You see today people are living by there feelings and emotions and we know how that can get us into trouble. People do not know how to NOT give in to their feelings and emotions. There is always the battlefield in the arena of feelings and emotions. We have to choose what we want to listen to and how we react to what we hear. Hence the reason the Bible tells us we must take our thoughts captive and be selective about what we accept and absorb. Always ask your self: "Is it right?" "Is it what God would accept?" "Is it positive?" "WHat am I going to benefit by what I hear?" "How is this going to affect me?" IF the shoe fits wear it, if its tight kick it off its not for you! We have to become accountable to ourselves and think about what we lend our ears out to. If gossip are we going to swallow it because its tasty? Are we going to say thanks but no thanks I dont want to be a part of this?
Everything is about choice, integrity, accountability to self and others, love and kindness, patience, peace, goodness, faithfulness etc.
People need to grow up and especially today in the marriage department. MArriages are taken too lightly. People think it has to be a bed of roses at all times and find its not romance and roses all the time. Its a team effort and it requires right choices and decisions and mutual agreement. WHen God is not in a marriage and people plod along with what they absorb from sitcoms and the disrespectful ways of this world, its not surprising to see marriages folding up. Instead of seeing each other as more important than self, its see myself more important than others and give me feed me and everything is all about ME.
Its called selfishness.
All you can do when u see a couple talking divorce is pray for them and not get involved, you can give them a book on marriage, but my advise is its not for you to interfere or to get involved other than just listen and not offer too much advise . You can suggest therapy or christian counselling but simply dso not get involved. If this is your situation get the book LOVE AND RESPECT and study it hard. THese two ingredients are missing and throwing you both into the crazy cycle. THe solutions are all there but to follow them it will require hard work and dedication and complete commitment from you.
I hope this gives you a bit more wisdom about this.
2007-02-07 05:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Give up!
Every thing has a way of turning out right!
Make a list of every thing that u don't like about him!
then make a list of every thing that u do like!
tell him to dio the same!
Sit down and talk about it!
Life ts a *****!
2007-02-07 05:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by zippoglen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mutual understanding in all affairs of life.
2007-02-07 06:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by pretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk... Communication is important
2007-02-07 05:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by 甲丞子 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication and being faithful are the only solutions
2007-02-07 05:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by ddr-carol 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married
2007-02-07 05:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋