I am 19 years old, completely in love. We both have WELL paying jobs, I live in my own apartment. I am very well set and also have parents that help me whenever I am in need. We both own brand new cars (2003 and a 2006.) We are very well off and very much in love. Also both in college, and also both have dreams. Most people would say we are way to young, but.. doesnt maturity have anything to do with it??
2007-02-06 20:46:58 · 15 answers · asked by You only live once... so live 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I SAY FINISH COLLEGE FIRST
2007-02-06 20:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay in college. a 2003 is not a new car. If you are so well set why do parental help. You may have a good job but it sounds like you need to grow up some before you seriously consider getting married. The number of years you have been on earth has nothing to do with it after you have reached a certain age. some are adults at 16 and I've met children who were close to 30.
2007-02-06 20:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by George B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no set age limit as to when you should get married. If you want to get married just to get married and have someone around, then it's an issue. But if you are ready to support a household, clean cook, take care of your husband, possible children, bills and all while maintaining yourself, then you might be ready. I got married when I was 20 and my husband was just about 21. Almost 2 years later and we're still married. We knew what type of responsibilites came with the job and we were ready for them.
So yes, maturity has a lot to do with it. Your age doesn't...unless of course you were both 16, in which case you're not. My mom was 19 when she go married, my parents are still happily married and it's going on 29 years this year. My mom's mom was 18 when she got married and last year was her last anniversary as my grandfather passed away. 51 years married. Although they had their troubles, they worked through them and stayed together to maintain their family.
Even if you both have well paying jobs, and I'm not saying this to stumble you in any way, but something could happen. Just because you're financially well off doesn't mean things will work out. The two of you could have differences. Your jobs may conflict, one of you may need to move because of your job...so it looks like this is the issue you may need to discuss with your future husband.
Good Luck :-)
2007-02-07 02:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by H.L.A. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Material things have nothing to do with marriage, neither does how much money you or your parents have . Because all of that could be gone tomarrow. I have three cars paid for (2)2006 and (1) 2007
my house will be completely paid for in three years ,and I am only 37 years old ,and I do not ,and will not credit cards , by the time I am 40 I will be 100%debit free except for basic stuff It does not make me ready for marriage. Money ,and Possessions can be taken away in an instant you could wake up tomarrow ,and all of your good fortune GONE, question is are you 100% sure he will still be there through thick ,and thin for life. do not confuse Love,money and materialistic things with the fact of knowing if he is ready to be with you for the rest of your life better or worse sickness or health ,and forsaking all others those are the vows you take ....nothing in the vows about your money or your parents money...based on how you approached with the details of your question I would HIGHLY recommend waiting , you have the rest of your life to get married ,why rush things .just enjoy living ,and after the two of you have shared the good times,and bad and have time to experience what life has to offer then decide . finish college If it is meant to be he will be there when the time is right
2007-02-06 21:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18. I'm 30 yrs old and I'm getting a divorce. Everyday, I wished that I had done things differently. I feel like I wasted a large portion of my life. Now, I have to start over and get back into the dating scene. I haven't been on a date since I was 16 yrs old. Freaky! If you can wait, wait! I'm not saying you should break up but as you get older what you thought was the right thing at 19 isn't necessarily going to be the right thing when you are 25. Give yourself a few years. You'll be amazed at your outlook on life as you get older.
If you decide to get married, just remember to treat your spouse like you'd treat your best friend.
Best Wishes!!
2007-02-06 21:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by southernbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends how emotionally mature you are.
We got married when I was 21 and she 20. I was still in college. We didn't have much money but we had a lot of love, and we were both fortunate to have chosen a person that was honest, dependable, forgiving, and compromising.
They way we see it (36 yrs. together) what matters is:
- compromise; the ability to work out problems without a lot of trauma, and reach a mutually agreeable solution.
- sympathy and forgiveness; cause you're both going to screw up on occasion.
- common interests. You get married cause you want to BE with that person, and if you start saying or hearing things like "my friends vs your friends," or "my money vs your money," you're already on the slippery slope to divorce.
A solid marriage is about "we" - not "me."
2007-02-07 00:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case getting engaged now is fine BUT wait until after college to marry. Yes you are right maturity does have alot to do with it . My daughter is 20 and is serious about a guy but she is in college and works full time and they are kinda engaged but waiting a few years to marry and she is very mature and intelligent for her age.
2007-02-06 21:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on the people concerned. Sometimes people twice your age are too immature to make a life long commitment but it all depends on the character and personality of you and your partner. My only advice would be to not worry about how much you're earning or your cars but can you imagine yourself waking up next to this person in 50 years? Remember that those cute little quirks of his will become irritating habits that drive you crazy...and vice versa. It all depends on how you view relationships and what you are willing to sacrifice for it because a marriage means a lot of give and take and sometimes it seems like its more give than take. I wish you all the best :)
2007-02-06 20:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Topsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both have maturity then yr more than half way there. You are so blessed with almost the idealist life and partner...I don’t see why you cant get engaged, and tell family that its gona be a "long term" engagement, this will take pressure of everyone. p.s. don’t ever let go of yr dream or individuality
2007-02-06 21:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity has heaps to do with it, as well as a persons attitude and life experience,but there is nothing wrong with getting engaged now and marring in 5 years time.
2007-02-06 20:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Krystle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 20 married, full time worker full time college student , finishing my BA this year and soon to be parent, about to buy a house very mature, AND YES maturity has a lot to do....if u guys feel it inside then go for it....
2007-02-06 22:12:41 · answer #11 · answered by juan s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋