if you never had a mother or father is it ears to understand life or your self?

Answer 1

It is usually years to understand life and yourself even when you have had both a mother and a father.

There is no doubt that people without a mother or father miss out on certain things, but I don't think understanding themself or understanding life are necessarily among those things.

Parents or no parents, there are some things each of us must discover by ourselves.

Answer 2

I have always heard that adopted children have a problem with understanding why their parents were not there.

Usually I have noticed that sometimes counseling helps because lets face it, life is hard enough with parents you know and love.

But to have never known who they were would hurt. I would wonder why? What were the circumstances?

You may never know, but you need to get inner peace for yourself so you can be happy. We come in this world alone and leave alone, but someone in between helps. There is great healing with research, counseling or just inner searching and realizing its ok.

You are a good person, turned out ok and you are on your own out of the nest. But I understand the hurt and the questions. It's good for the souls. And speaking of, those books chicken soup for the soul are great. There is always one that will fit exactly what you need.

Hope that helps.

Answer 3

It stands to reason that if you are grown even into a teen ager, that you had some form of adult guidance in your formative years.

To an individual who was orphaned very near it's birth time, the lack of a father or mother parent would not be important to understanding life or self.

Such guidance would come from those persons who would be close in the environment of pre-school learning and then those who would be providing formal education and those providing day to day living instructions would substitute for missing birth parents.

Then, as the child began to think for his or her self, questions would arise and answers would be sought that would mould the child for life.

Answer 4

you understand yourself by knowing yourself... through a lot of things you love to do...
you understand life by living it and loving every minute of it...

You also have the power of choice... Do you wish to do those things that happened to you to your own children? If not, then it is your responsibility and choosing the right things to become a better person... IT is your LIFE!!! IT is your CHOICE!!!

You are the single most important person in the whole world...
You cannot teach love if it is selfish, sick and possessive.
you cannot teach life if there is no responsibility, no curiosity and understanding.
In short, you cannot give what you do not have...

understanding yourself is knowing yourself all the time, place, situation, feeling, expression and everything that happens within or out...

so you give what you are to any situation and unless you have become the best YOU you can be... you will never see the beauty of life, love and learning from it...

have fun doing it!;-)

Answer 5

I'm not trying to be rude man, but there's an old saying... nobody promised you a rose garden. So you missed out on parents, for whatever reason, be it adoption or they are deceased. Life is what you make of it, so if it's not understandable... it's your own fault. And there is no mystery information that parents have that will help you understand yourself.

Again... I am trying to help, not be rude. I've been on my own, flying solo since the age of 15 and the years I spent wondering what things could have been like sucked. Rolling up your sleeves and pressing forward? There's no greater joy than making it on your own. No greater reward. You did it. Parents are just a nice headstart, not a requirement.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You may miss out on some aspects, but one only gets better by experiencing by him/ her self.

Life is never easy either way, it is just that there are pros and cons of both the sithuations and let me tell you - you will find people on both side of the border - happy and cribbing. it is all in the mind. one must take the situation in stride and move forwards, that is all that matters.