hi have ever been so bored with the things that are going on in your life?i have been married to this guy who keeps complaining of everything,he was never like this but am just so fed up,he is always wrong but thinks that he has asnwers for every thing,i hate aguring with him,i liked my life better b4 i met him,becoz then i used to stand to what i believed,as for now i feel so down,am i beig un fair
2007-02-06 20:41:56 · 20 answers · asked by Aisha o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
life is what you make it. You have the power to change that if you want to . instead of focusing on the negative or who is always right and wrong. why don't you work on bringing the fun back into your relationship remind yourself what attracted you to him in the first place im sure he has some good traits after all you married him. I'm sure you too have changed and you both have gotten into this tit for tat battle. life is too short. pick your battles. why not try to pick up an interest you both would enjoy. get back to more romance if thats what lacking in your life. open your communication channels better.
You can have a better life but it helps to think in a positive light. if you think negativly always you will bring in darkness . So you have the power to kick out the darkness and bring back the light.
So get crackin and be creative and think of ways you can spice things up or just get more involved in each other.
good luck. you can turn this around.
2007-02-06 22:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably bored too. Try doing something together like a sport. Then give each other plenty of space as well. Go to the library and read a good book on your own. Listen to the relationship CD of Tony Robbin's Get the Edge and decide if you are compatible. If your values are the same then just give, give, give and give. Learn how to listen, really listen, put yourself in his place and try to understand what is really behind what he is saying. Men are not that tricky. Treat him like a dog (no offense). Don't talk to him unless you have something to say.
2007-02-06 20:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal to get bored. Number 1 rule - talk!
Sit down with your man - tell him how you feel - during your "Talk time" he is not allowed to talk, just listen. and than give him a turn to talk.
Maybe you'll find out the reason why he is acting like this is because he is also not 100% happy.
Than try to do stuff together that you normally wouldn't do - fun stuff like diving or ski-ing or something you both can do.
If he doesn't want to try this - you should rather see a marriage councilor.
If it doesn't work, or if he doesn't want to make the effort - it's time to get out!
But do really try to talk first - I've seen marriages go from almost total disasters, to more loving than ever - just because people talk and listen - even about your deepest fantasies, feelings, hopes & desires. Start sharing & caring!
2007-02-06 20:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 05:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are newly married -give time to understand each other complaining is normal for newly married couple time will not only settle down the differences but also u will start loving your partner give him full sexual satisfaction
dkp
2007-02-06 20:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by dhirpateria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blame your not standing up for what you believe on him... you stand up for it when you beleive it.... shifting the blame is rubbish.
if you're so bored why don't you make it exciting instead of waiting for him to.
if you don't like arguing then don't! far out. get a grip. talk to him about it no point moping around hoping he'll figure it out. you shouldn't just complain either, coz that is what you don't like about him... maybe he's bored too, so as well as complaining you should also offer some fun ways to fix the problem
2007-02-06 20:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a new hobby or something. Go shopping and why dont you make and meet some new girl friends.Do not argue with him as this causes fighting. Just let him talk lol.
2007-02-06 21:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you are not...no one likes to be treated like trash. Try talking to him and explaining to him how he makes you feel .Maybe you should try marriage counselling? If all that those not work, then maybe a break apart templorarily might bring him to his senses...'Good luck
2007-02-06 20:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.
you should have the power to change the way.
try to change him . i think he is bored too .
find something that can be intresting for both of you , a new hobby
go to places u have never been , go on vaccation.
also talk loudly to each other
2007-02-06 20:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by stranger 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to live your own life regardless of your guy. Bring something new and different to the relationship!
2007-02-06 22:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋