my husband wants a three some?

Question

should i go ahead with it and hope he never askes again or not

Answer 1

dicey --

i say if the idea turns you on too then maybe...but i would try to satisfy his fantasy without actually involving another woman. my experience is that they don't really want the actual physical encounter, they want to be assured of the ability to satisfy two women. my suggestion is this: rent a porn flick that has the m/f/f scenario -- then do your magic on him -- give it all you've got girl -- use the opportunity to explore some new ideas, positions, toys...things that have crossed your mind but maybe you were too embarrassed to act on...now is your chance. i bet you can get his mind off the 3-some and on your new sexy self! Have Fun!

Answer 2

So the vows of honour and cherish in the marriage vows mean nothing to him. You cannot have 3 people in a marriage even if it is just sex.
Your husband is putting his sexual fantasies way above honouring you as a wife.
I completely disagree with him. If he wanted to do that stuff then he should of stayed single. What do you think a marriage means?
Going ahead and hoping he will not ask again is asking for disaster, and once you done it you cannot undo the damage is has caused.

Answer 3

first thing are you interested in it at all even in the slightest? if so I say sure go for it experience is always the best teacher. If not really but maybe just a little tell him sure me you and another girl but only if me you and another guy can go first that should stop it right there or maybe you'll get both. If not then tell him NO if he tries to guilt trip you or coerce you then just gently ask him how he plans to keep 2 girls interested at the same time cause you ain't touching her, and if he pushes you to the point where you get mad say " hell you barely satisfy me let alone ma and another chick" and later you can always fall back on the old excuse "baby you know I didn't mean it, I just said it cause I was mad" To all you ladies out there the 2 easiest ways to give your man an attitude adjustment are 1. sex 2. All men weather they'll admit it or not are vulnerable to ego attacks. Works every time. BTW 29/M and whipped and in training for 10 years (training=marriage)

Answer 4

No, you shouldn't,,,,,do you feel like you have let him down in that area or is it his lust that just wants more than what you can give him? I would strongly suggest not doing this, it is very damaging for a relationship to endure another sexual partner. Consider it this way, he is asking you if it is allright to have an affair with someone, the difference is he is including you in his fantasy. Are you helping him with the distance he feels from you be okaying another woman. Wow, I could go on, but no, don't do it,,,,,let him know that if you wants to do that then he can do it when he is single.

Answer 5

You should do as YOU want. You sound as though you aren't keen on the idea, so NO don't do it. Just tell hubby that your marriage license covers only the two of you. Then, drop the subject, and simply repeat that the license covers only two, if he brings it up again. If he insists, file for divorce. That would be better than becoming hubby's whorish slutt, for whoever he wants to add to the bed.

Answer 6

First and foremost, marriage is exclusively for two person alone! Have you ever seen somebody who got married with two spouses at the same time? If you go ahead with it, I'm sure he'll ask for more!!!! And if you don't go for it again- he's going to look for it in other people...

Your hubby might be "sick" (not physically). Please try to seek an expert's advice before you lose your partner!

Answer 7

Ma'am, I can only reply with this short answer....

If your husband cheated on you, you would leave him. If he were flirting with another woman in your presence you would be angry with him. But when he asks you for something this ridiculous, you ponder it! Think that over a minute, will you?

What he is asking you to do is not only disrespectful of you, but to that of your marriage. If he wants to be with another woman, then what does that say of you, and your marriage? Do you really think so little of your relationship?

If he really wants this, I suggest you go get him some help. If you keep pondering this..........then perhaps you should join him in getting that help.

Respectfully....

Answer 8

Almost all men I know have the same fantasy. But most of them who are happily in love and respect their partners, leave it at that...FANTASY.
His audacity in asking you straight off shows that he either thinks you wont mind or he absolutely have no respect for you.
Be honest with yourself...can you handle it? Can you get past this? If your answer is 'no' or 'not sure', then DONT!
If he persists on this, then you know what to do....demand for a 2 guys 1 girl threesome ;-)

Answer 9

Firstly, depending on your moral standards, think about the future. How long is he going to be happy with only two? How long until he wants to take you to orgies?

Only do it if you are very secure and comfortable, If not tell him you are not interested.

In my opinion, having a threesome is cheating on your spouse. Not only that but think about all the deseases you can get.

If he really loves you he will respect your opinion.

Answer 10

hope he never asks again are the words that strike me...by these words i feel u dont want to do this but are to keep him happy..talk to him, explain how you feel. if he loves and respects you he will stop but if im wrong which i dont think i am do it and make sure u both stay protected at all times

good luck