i've been single for a long time n met my bf just a few mths ago...Met his frens n brother.. hang out with them n went fishing etc... then something happened n found out that my bf is actually married with 2 kids... then he told me y he din tell me the truth coz if i know the truth 1st i wont even go out with him which is true... if i know earlier, we will not be in a relationship... he said his marriage is an arranged marriage after meeting the gal for ard 2 mths... then he din really tell me why he agreed to the marriage in the 1st place... his frens knows abt his marriage but din tell me abt it but the more senior 1 said if we r happy together we can fight against the obstacles in front of us... now he asking me to stay on with him... i am confused n tried leaving but still going back... i know i'm lacking determination but then i really love him...i feel that he's the one but then he had a wife...
2007-02-06 19:41:53 · 6 answers · asked by -LOST- 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dun think he gonna divorce his wife coz they have kids n telling me that he can get another wife due to his religion... but then i still feel bad against the wife... he did tell his family n his mum tat he met me but then later he lied to them that we have broken up coz his wife keep sms me as that time he told me that the wife is his sister who dun like my race... we r of different race... now the wife din sms me but i think she still thinks that we r still together... now me n him still having hard times as i really feel bad staying on... but i really cant bear to leave him... he also dun want to let go of me... i really dunno... but i feel tat if he's happy with his marriage he wont come out n look for another gal but then he din tell me why... all i want is to know y he want to be with when he have a wife at hm... i'm really confused... i really want him to be happy but i'm still confused...
2007-02-06 19:50:09 · update #1
we r in asian country not in US.... where muslims are able to marry up to 4 wives... we r of different races..
2007-02-06 19:51:25 · update #2
To be honest....there 2 ways in solving this kind of problem.
1. Cut every acces you have to him...(erase phone number, change e mail address, change yr cell phone number, anyhow you think that can put you out of his life...
Reason: he is married man....he must have another responsibilties (children, wife, bills, work, etc). Your existance could only make his life more burdened.....and you must talk about this over with him!!!
2. Take the risk.....no matter what people say, no matter what people think, you just go ahead continue your life with him....
All i can say is, hopefully you are mature and wise enough to think NOT ONLY your own sake, but also for the sake of someone else.....
2007-02-06 19:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by wrong_sins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can cheat his wife in the first place, I don't think it is advisable for you to be together with him. Just put yourself in his wife shoe and think how would you feel if you know that your husband is having relationship with another woman.
So it depends on how you think on the overall situation. If you decide to leave him, you have to be brave and determine. Don't let this sort of relationship affect your own future
2007-02-07 06:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel in her place, how would you feel if your husband cheated on you, I think he needs to know he is wrong and he should stop right there , if you love him, stop loving him becoz he only will bring you hell to your life , he has a child and a wife, it is not their mistake, he should be courage enough to face the arranged marriage at the beginning but he knows he is not happu with his wife, so why having a child?? that is stupif of him?AND WEEK.
you don't deserve a man like him, he will only learn when you stop communicating with him but confront him first and not when you are alone bu tinfront of his friends in a respectable way, take with you someone from your side your friends or family to witness your confrontation. good luck
2007-02-07 03:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Summer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who has arranged marriages in the US? are you sure he wasnt just lying just to make it ok? whether it was arranged or not tell him you cant have a relationship with him because he is a married man, if he isnt happy he is grown and can get divorced. why even be married if he isnt happy and is messin around with girls anyways? stay away until he settles some things this seems like trouble
2007-02-07 03:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to be with someone who cheats on his kids? That is the real question! I wouldn't stand for that! Maybe you should call his wife and let her know, I'm sure she would appreciate hearing from you. Find someone new and leave their Dad alone.
2007-02-07 03:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no future with him.
have some self-respect and move on...
2007-02-07 03:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋