Been trying to hold onto my marriage, I believed in love.Found out my husband has cheated on me and even gone to the extent of picking up a gal off the streets. In all this I had never denied him sex but somehow he was never home. Tried to leave once but he refused me to go, yet many times he has said it is over between us. The other gal is now rejecting him and says she wants to move on but that does not mean he has come back to me. We still stay together and am wondering could there be a chance that our marriage can survive? We have a baby together. Is it possible to trust again.
but he has not even tried to change and I hear he is trying to find the girl to talk.
2007-02-06 19:40:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound young. And there's nothing scarier than being young, on your own, with a baby. You may worry that you'll never find love again. But that's not true. And let me tell you something... What you two have is NOT love, don't kid yourself. If he REALLY loved you and cared about you he would make effort to treat you in a way that didn't make you feel like garbage. My advice? Turn and run away as fast as you can. Spend some time single, and figure out why you fell into this trap, and how to avoid it again. Eventually, you can find someone who will be a real husband and father. There are millions of guys out there with good morals and are responsible, caring men. Theyr'e not even hard to find, (Just don't look in bars.) Good luck...
2007-02-06 20:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part is leaving him but in time you will look back and wonder why you waited so long. He won't change, he may even get worse, not to mention the possible diseases he could pass on to you. Take your baby and get out now, don't wait any longer. I don't know your financial situation but don't let lack of funds stop you -- there are so many places for you to turn if you need help. Good luck -- You have a wonderful new life ahead -- Go For It!
2007-02-07 03:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by not chey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on - it sounds like a dead-end street to me... You do not deserve to be treated this way and your baby does not deserve to be put in the middle of this - Remove yourself and baby as soon as possible and find someone that will respect you and love you. This is a really sad story but I trust that you will make the right decision for you and baby. God Bless.
2007-02-07 03:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take a great deal of your inner strength to forgive and FORGET---it will always eat at you---and you will probably throw it in his face everytime you get the chance---it is rare to see a mate that can truly get past this issue. A cheater is disrespectful to himself and you--no integrity or decency--no concern for diseases, and immature-----is that enough to stick around for??? NOPE not me---the baby is your concern--18 years of a child will be hard but adding a cheater into the mix will just make it impossible....he said what he needed to, to get back into the house---you need him gone---he can't continue this and there is no holding you if you want to leave----call the police if he grabs you----it is unlawful to restrain you---get a grip and be an adult. Good luck and be careful---and no more sex--he might pass a disease to you.
2007-02-07 03:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is trying to find her to talk it means he is not finished with her, if he has not tried to change means he has no intention of it, and the more energy we put into something that doesn't work the worse we will feel, your in denial over this, your not seeing the truth here, your marriage can't survive if he isn't willing. takes two people to reconcile, get away from him, he isn't willing to make things right, he is still thinking about her. get your self worth back and get someone who loves u. she is rejecting him now, so if he comes back it is only because of that, because if he truly loved u he wouldn't have left u in the first place.
2007-02-07 07:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a baby with this guy it will ruin the baby's life. The dad will always do what he dose. he won't be there when you need him. From so much experience i can not tell you how much you need to leave this guy. if someone hits you in the face its not that easy to just say that was OK. same with your feelings trust your instincts you no he is no good so leave him!
2007-02-07 03:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by miss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that the only answer is to leave and live a life without him. he is not treating you well. he is not trying to change. he does not love you. to be a good role model for you child you should stand up for yourself and leave him and try to be happy. it's best to walk away from situations like that. if you are meant to be he will come follow you and fight for you when the time is right. but you need to stop the maddness and leave him. he deserves to be left.
2007-02-07 03:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no...
You have been trying to hold on, but marriage is a partnership and it takes 2.
You should leave. He will either come to his senses and try to work things out, or not... Either way you will be happier...
don't put up with this kind of crap. stand up for yourself and do what your gut instinct is yelling at you to do...
2007-02-07 03:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if hes cheating on you ... you dont need him and especially if hes pickin em up off the streets. he could bring a disease or 50 home to you get rid of him
2007-02-07 04:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This marriage is dead. Unless you like being treated like a doormat.This guy sounds like a total JERK. I bet you could do better than this fool.
2007-02-07 03:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋