just exactly what he thinks?

Question

he's done just about everything that makes me think he likes me. he flirts with me sometimes, he e-mails me weekly, he asks me out and recently, even asks me to go overseas to visit the place he's at (he did not ask me to do this to visit him, but the place he's at). he's done everything except admitting that he flirts with me. when i hinted, he told me he's the wrong guy. please tell me what this means?

Answer 1

he really likes you, as a dear, CLOSE, INTIMATE friend, but he's probably gay. He wants to be your "best girlfriend", the person you go to first when you need someone to talk to.

Answer 2

1. "How do I get him to ask me out?"
Well, it's kind of like, if someone likes you, they'll ask you out. There no's particular booty shake or secret rain dance you can do to make someone like you. Similarily, if someone asks you out and you don't like them, you can't get yourself to like them just for the sake of pleasing them, can you? Usually not. But in other words, just be yourself. Either they'll like you or they won't. The problem with pretending to be someone that you're not is that it is: a) exhaustive to keep pretending 24 hours a day b) the person will be disappointed and the relationship will dissipate when they find out who you really are and c) someone who doesn't like you for you is probably not going to be compatible with you anyways.


2. "How do I make him love me?"
About as impossible as "How can I stop loving him?" Unfortunately, when someone doesn't love you anymore, there's not a thing you can do about. Sure, you can beg and cry and plead, and ask people to make promises but ultimately, they have no obligation to fulfill them. Words are just words, and people are free to take them back at any time. You can't say, "No, sorry it's too late, you can't leave me, I've already invested too much time in you." If someone wants to leave, they will eventually find a way to do it. Among the most common mistakes are: a) trying to buy people's love with gifts or money, b) using a baby or your body to "trap" the other person into committment, and c) becoming obsessively clingy and overprotective. Of course, these things might be okay when the feeling is mutual. But otherwise, all three of these tactics tend to have the opposite effect, and though the person may be enchanted for a few brief seconds when they are pitying you, taking advantage of you, and feeling guilty, eventually they will only be scared further away. This will leave you with an empty wallet, a used body, and bitterness.

The truth is, when someone really loves you, things will work out Love is all you need (beatles). You know how I know? take family for instance. virtually no one divorces their own family. They make you mad til you cry, they make you sad til you cry, and in general, drive you up the wall. But you still stick with them. You know why? Because they're family and you're commited to them. And though a spouse is also a family member, many people think that because they are not blood related, they dont have to stick with it. Although it is probably a lot easier to find another wife than to find someone who wants to be your mom or dad. But when someone truly loves you, sacrifice and hard work are expected to be a part of the equation. But when they don't love you, they will find every excuse for why things don't work, why you can't be together, why the relationship must end. Every slightest little thing you do wrong becomes just another nail in the coffin they've already made for you.

Answer 3

He's just playing the game it sounds like to me. Ask him what is it that he wants and maybe you will get an answer. Maybe not the one you want but you need to let him know how this makes you feel. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You had better gets this cleared up,,only he can answer this..so you are going to have to plain ask him what his intentions are...dont just guess, it will probably be wrong...

Answer 5

if he said he is the wrong guy.. then he is the wrong guy..duh!!