this man used to work with my auntie when we meet he confused me untill we ended up sleepin together out of which l was pregnant. Now l wasnt for this man l dont love him at all . l found a job somewhere and lve meet someone else ,l really love the man and we are almost started dating one another . now lm confused coz the father of my boy is still atached to me may be because of my baby . what can l do
2007-02-06 18:45:18 · 6 answers · asked by joyce m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you can't go through life being "confused" by everything that life throws at you... You need to work on yourself, pull yourself up by your bootstraps out of your ignorance, practice self-reflection. No one can interpret your feelings for you - but you can learn to do so for yourself. Education usually helps not only with spelling and grammar (which you REALLY need help with), but also with broadening your horizons and helping you be more confident in analyzing your behavior and the behavior of others. The father of your child may be "attached" to you, but ask yourself if he is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If the answer is no, why prolong the agony? But if you simply leave and move onto the next confusing and dysfunctional relationship, it will not be helpful to you at all in the long run. I would advise you to focus on yourself, your child, and your education first, and look for love once you have more life experience, and more of a clue of how to make good choices. Good luck.
P.S. Make sure to use birth control until you're absolutely sure you want more children.
2007-02-06 19:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you've already started a new life. Why are you still there. I'd imagine your answer would be for my son but it doesn't do him any good to grow up in a home that lacks love. On the flip side it also doesn't do him any good to grow up in a home w/ a man he doesn't even know-I sincerely hope your 3 yr old doesn't know this other man. If you don't love your husband leave but don't leave w/ the notion of being w/ this other guy. Leave and take care of yourself and you son. If this guy really loves you he will still be around later on down the road. Be a Mom first and foremost.
2007-02-07 02:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jay K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is whether u loved him at all at any time. If so, what is the change in circumstances forcing to change ur attitude about him and that too after a gap of almost four years. May be u need more than one sexual partner. In any case, discuss the matter with ur husband and find out an acceptable solution.
2007-02-07 03:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of "til death do us part" didn't you understand? You took an oath to this man- if you are going to renege on it don't expect anyone else to give it the thumbs up.
2007-02-07 02:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce & marry the new boyfren? But first, are you confused by this new boyfren as well?
2007-02-07 03:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your new boyfriend whether he will accept your baby??
2007-02-07 02:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋