a batchmate who is happily married?
2007-02-06 18:30:40 · 14 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her classmate who was in love with her but could not express it ans later she came in touch with him on internet. She says she sent and received only 10 mails over 1 year but the letter is very passionate.
2007-02-06 18:42:02 · update #1
She says she still loves me and that she never meant to desert the family. And that she would have taken divorce had she been really in love or hated me that much.
2007-02-06 19:20:09 · update #2
Deserve what a funny line. Was she right of course not you already know that. I feel very sorry for you what a terrible predicament. Dont judge if you want to make your marriage work then understand. I dont mean accept this behaviour never. You deserve better. Woman are emotional creatures. Men are visual. We dont understand when you guys look at other woman of course because we dont feel the same way. We cannot grasp how lust is different to love. Being the different beings we are we crave attention romance and all those silly things yes but they keep us happy they make us feel wanted yes even after 14 years. She over stepped the mark and i presume or i would hope she knows it. Try some romance in your relationship. Tell her that she isnt to contact him again. Maybe you could send the next email and ask him to kindly attend to his own relationship and remove himself from yours. What does she deserve. The same as the next person in this world who makes a mistake forgiveness and an understanding husband if she wants to . confide. What do you deserve love commitment and a wife who agrees to understand and never step beyond the boundaries of your relationship again. I only say not to be angry because it only eats you up inside and you dont deserve that. Bitterness is a real ugly emotion dont ruin your heart with it. Mind you if she isnt sorry kick her to the kurb mate........
2007-02-06 19:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by tracey m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she write a love letter to someone else then she definately doesn't love her husband or feels neglected due to some reason. It is not a bad thing she wrote it, but it would be real worse and ugly if her husband comes to know of it. If the woman has given her life her time and love to make this marriage work for 14yrs, the man has also done the same.
Lets put your question like this, what would an indian woman do when after 14yrs of marriage she discovers a love letter written by her husband to another female. What will she do and how will she react? The answer to this question is the answer to yours.
If it is written before marriage no big deal but after marriage it is a big deal, if the husband knows it.
I feel it is time for both husband and wife to sit down talk and discuss the short comings in their relation as if their relation would be strong enough the woman would not have written this love letter.
2007-02-07 05:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Santosh S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, writing a loveletter is something warranting investigation, not cheating. Loveletters are not sex, either. Even if she had had sex, as much as I understand your urge to cheat since I'm a guy, I think this would be a stupid reason to cheat if there were ever good ones. Relax and talk to her. Cannot do that? Fine, relax and talk to her about divorce then if there's no other way.
2016-03-29 09:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, why worry about her race? Sure, it's not a crime to write love letters, though you may call it adultery.
Still, after 14 years? I think that she might be feeling bored with her husband. If that was the case, she should get a divorce before becoming romantically involved with her batch-mate.
However, there's the fact that she has two children to consider. What would the children think? That, and the fact that it's almost certain that they will be traumatised. They'd feel that their mother used to love their father. Now, she no longer loves him. Will she still love them?
There's a lot to think about, so she should consider her options wisely. Which is the most important thing?
2007-02-06 19:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a batchmate???
And why does her race have anything to do with it???
14 years of marriage and 2 kids.......that is a tough one. But it is hard to answer because I know nothing of your 14 years. I my husband was caught writing love letters to another woman...I believe I would be furious and alone very fast. That is a thought that I cannot stand to think about. I hope he would honor his and my self respect by removing himself from our relationship before he pursued another.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-06 18:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is committing a mistake ofcourse because she is spoiling happiness in two families. If her batchmate is happily married she should not indulge herself by writing love letters to him because once she was in his mind. By writing love letters to him she is provoking him and the love hidden in his heart may be exposed somewhere.that will badly affect his happy married life. On the other side her reputation before her husband and children will also be spoiled if they come to know about it. Overall, she will always feel guilty conscious about this foolishness which will affect her mental stability and health.
2007-02-06 19:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by VP K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this type relationships do happen in some women during such crucial age when they feel stale in sex life and want an excitement and thrill, and if they happen to click with one of her choice nothing like that to her. BUT, it is not proper and not to be encouraged; and such desire has to be nibbed at the bud somehow.
To add: No doubt it gives enormous amount of kick that drives one mad sometimes. In the long run it is bound to ruin her life when known to her husband / family. There is a saying " cough and sex cannot be hidden" and so one day she is going to be caught and nobody can help her. Let her, please, think of the peace in her home.
2007-02-06 19:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Marks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop, or you if it's you're actually referring to yourself... your husband doesn't deserve this kind of treatment... this woman and her husband should rekindle that bond/loving feeling that enabled them to have 2 children... change yourself first, because it will affect those around you and in time your other half will change for the better :)
and is your batchmate really HAPPILY married??? whatever it is, it is not wise to interfere with this batchmate... please be sensible and do what is needed to make your relationship happy again... it will be worth all the effort you put in... focus on the goal of a happy relationship... and work on it :D gd luck...
2007-02-06 18:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lady has a right to do what ever she likes,
i think she has done enough for her husband and childrens in 14 years and if she is taking this step she is not satisfied with what she got and she wants more in her life,
BUT
1. first put herself in the man's wife place
2. make sure their is no "U" turn
3. don't panic if her husband and even her children don't excepts or hates her.
this is india budy we respect motherhood more then mother's need.
2007-02-07 00:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r taking a slippery path.
2007-02-06 19:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋