There's this new girl at work. I think she may be gay, but I could be wrong. She has a couple kids and is feminine but that doesn't neccesarily means she's straight.She could also be bi,but whenever guys try to talk to her she acts totally disinterested. She asked me did I smoke,but I told her no.She was going to invite me to her house.I offered her a ride home and she accepted and she acted as if she wanted to invite me in but didn't have an excuse since I don't smoke. She also has mentioned a lot that she lives alone.Also, I don't think she knows I'm gay yet,so she's probably scared to ask me out or something like that.I could be wrong about her,she could just be straight but friendly.So, what's a good way to let her know I'm interested w/o looking stupid if she happens to be straight? And please,I don't want to hear anything about work romances going bad,I've already thought of that and still want to do it.
2007-02-06 18:20:20 · 6 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi babes,
(1) The harder you try, the more difficult things will get
(2) So relax - calm down - she will not be your first or last lover
(3) She could be straight or she could be bi - at the moment you dont know so dont assume either
(4) Treat her as a human being & as a friend - so dont get upset if she turns out straight - also being an internal office affair , make sure that you dont say anything stupid - be aware that if things go wrong, it will become part of office gossip - so just take things slowly
(5) Try to create situations, where you will be alone with her , example , you could tell her that you dont smoke but would not mind coming to her house for a smoke , or just to give her company when she smokes, you could invite her to your house to watch a movie , there are movies which have gay scenes & her reactions may reveal a few hints about her orientation.
2007-02-06 18:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Mostly because the two of you work together. Straight or gay, I think people should try to take time to get to know someone before the rush off into sexual situations. That way you don't end up in a complicated mess.
Just wait a little while...get to know her...it will become very obvious in a fair amount of time. If she is interested.....she will end up letting you know...the worst thing that can happen from waiting this out is that you could gain a new friend. That and you won't find yourself in an awkward situation at work.
2007-02-07 02:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work relationships are super tricky. If I were you and trust me, I've been there, I would play it cool. Just try to get to know her on a platonic level.Later on, when the two of you get closer, you might get a better feel on things and than go from there. Good Luck
2007-02-07 02:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Shay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all you gotta find out whether she's gay or not. How? i guess you just have to ask her like a friend or maybe asking her if she likes someone at work. that's what i would do, be her friend first so you can be sure of what step you could take next.
2007-02-07 02:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by emily c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably should stay away from relationships at work.
2nd, if she isn't gay, then may cause more problems.
also depends on where you work. If corporate or professional, then definitely no. If a laid back job, more acceptable.
2007-02-07 02:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she says 'no' ask her if she has a girlfriend and see what she says. I have done that to get an idea of someones orientation.
2007-02-07 02:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by tmills883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋