we've been married for almost 4 years, and his drinking habits seem to get worse everyday ... it is frigthening me to the bones ... i always try to convince him to minimize his drinking sprees but he just dismisses me most of the time ... what should i do?
2007-02-06 17:54:50 · 12 answers · asked by majal_lu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I HAD THIS SAME PROBLEM WITH A PERSON FOR OVER SIX YEARS, AND TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH: YOU JUST HAVE TO LEAVE. AND YOU HAVE TO PLAN YOUR DEPARTURE ACCORDINGLY. THIS PERSON SHOULD NOT KNOW WHERE YOU'LL BE RESIDING, BECAUSE YOU'RE AWARE OF THE FACT THAT HE'LL COME LOOKING FOR YOU. DRUNK!
PLEASE BE STRONG AND DON'T LET THE SEED OF "THIS IS MY FAULT" OR "I'LL GIVE HIM ONE MORE CHANCE" CREEP IN YOUR HEAD. RUN LIKE THE WIND. AND IF HE'S REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT HIS DRINKING PROBLEM HE'LL STOP. BUT REMEMBER THIS WILL TAKE TIME AND EFFORT, SO DON'T BE SO WILLING TO JUMP BACK IN HIS ARMS WHEN HE DECLARES HIS DSIRE TO CHANGE.
2007-02-06 18:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you are feeling and if he doesn't respect you as his better half, then leave. You don't need to surround yourself with people like that b/c in the end you're just hurting yourself. The thing I don't get abuot women is that they act like life won't go on if they just remove themselves from abusive relationships, so they continue to stay with the guy. I'm not saying he's abusive, but it can very easily turn into that. Please, when he's sober just tell him how you feel about the whole situation and if you don't see any improvement, leave. You could even try professional help if he won't listen to your suggestions. A lot of people don't know how they act when they're drunk, so maybe film him once or twice and show him how bad it has really become.
2007-02-07 02:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Pedro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends you wanna do HARD way or SOFT ways.
HARD WAYS:
1. Don let him have any money to buy wain.
2. Say to him... You want drink or me.
3. Drink more better than him when he's around.
4. just leave and you don't deserve like this.
SOFT WAYS:
1. Beg for his mercy, saying you're hurting my feeling.
2. Try find out what's going on him. Is he got pressure on his work?
good luck.
2007-02-07 02:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by peter71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you need to feel safe and happy and it dosen't seem to be the case. You deserve better....do what you got to do, If he loves you he'll quit once he sees how bad it's hurting you, if not then there are some really great guys out there once you get your world back together again from his drinking!
Take Care
God Bless!!
2007-02-07 02:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by snickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. My ex had this problem, too. It made him violent. I decided this was not a healthy environment for our children and so I took them and left. I will still meet him at set areas so he can see his children, as they are also his, but I refuse to let them stay the night with him because of his drinking.
2007-02-07 02:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Muslimaah-Beautiful Islaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get out of this, just tell him u love him but can't be part of this way of life anymore that he is going down a different path than u want to go down. and than u have to leave him and just forget about it.
2007-02-07 07:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. You said so yourself that it's getting worse instead of better.
2007-02-07 01:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get professional advice.
2007-02-07 03:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer him a little support such as alcoholic anonymous meetings. give him an ultimatum. bottom line.....he has to want help.
2007-02-07 02:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by REALLY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
drunkard makes good husband. why do you want to get out ?
2007-02-07 02:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋