pregnant and not sure what to do?

Question

im 19 and have just found out that im pregnant. im really scared and am not sure what to do next.... any help would be great :)

Answer 1

my answer would be to ask you... What do you really want to do?
Honestly nature has a way of pretty much maing us ready parenthood whenever we let it happen... but if you dont want to conintue the pregnancy then see a doctor really soon... the sooner the better..

Answer 2

You need to lay out all your options - are you able to provide for this child; food, shelter, clothing and time without becoming a burden on anyone else; such as your parents as many young girls tend to do - how does the baby's father feel about it - will he take responsibility and/or move you into an apartment if you are not already living with him and provide for his family?

The age is not the problem - is everything else that comes along with it - I am really against abortion, but at the end, you are going to do what you feel is best for you and you are able to live with for the rest of your life - nobody is going to be able to change that no matter what they say - but regardless of your decision, you simply need to think about "everything" - you are early in your pregnancy - maybe you could get your act together (if you do not already have) and take these next nine months to prepare to receive this child. Do not see pregnancy or a child as a tragedy or a negative interruption in your life - see it as a permanent change which you can either make the best of it or simply give up - but remember one thing - you are always going to stress the fact that you terminated and/or killed this little life for a mistake that you did - basically you gave him/her the death penalty for a crime that he did not committ and which you know that you did - terminating a pregnancy is easy but dealing with the emotional scars I think is something that you will carry for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

I have been there. I got pregnant at eighteen. You need to talk to your parents. They will help you. Planned parenthood is a great suggestion too. I know how scary it can be. Don't rush into marriage. I got married and it has been great, but i am the only one i know who is happy. I know a lot of girls that got pregnant early also and they didn't have such good marriages. If you have the baby you will get your maternal instinct. they are right, they just kick in out of nowhere. You need to get a doctors appointment and get on prenatal vitamin's fast. I had my son and he is 5 now. If you choose to keep the baby then it will change your life completely but in the most wonderful way. I am not saying it is easy, but it is rewarding. Adoption and abortion are both options. It is your choice. Do what you feel is right. Don't let people pressure you into something you might regret. take care. Good luck. and congratulations!

Answer 4

i don't know how much help ill be but I'm going to try. First off Congratulations! now breath in breath out and don't hyperventilate. I'm 18 now i was 15 when i got pregnant i didn't get to keep my baby i miscarried at 3 months 2 weeks after i found out. but the best thing i can tell you is think about what you want. This is your decision, then i would say tell your parents, then the boyfriend or flip those it really doesn't matter you ll have to tell them both sooner or later. then i would say get an obgyn appointment or planned parenthood. Sign up for wic that always helps. Umm eat heathly do all that get lots of sleep. don't panic things will be ok. get involved in a group online to talk to other mothers in your situation. don't let other put you down your not the first to be in this position and you will not be the last I'm sure. i dont kno if id be much help but if you'd like someone to talk to id be happy to talk to you. My email is [e-mail] or on aim its tomboychicky22. just trying to help. Umm i wish you all they luck in the world.

Answer 5

The first thing you have to do is gather your courage and tell the father. I am assuming you are not married. Then you would probably be best to tell your parents. You must take care of yourself. Eat healthy food, drink water and get plenty of sleep. If you have access to a school counselling service, or any type of counselling, go and get the help. You need all your brain power to help you make good decisions. I hate to say it but abortion seems to be a very common option. Personally I could not do it, but everyone is different. It is your choice. The other options are to keep the baby, or adopt it out when it is born. Once you know where you stand with your decision, your boyfriends response and the attitude of your parents, then you can plan what you will do. Very best wishes. I hope everything works out well.

Answer 6

Many factors would affect your final decision. Firstly, your marital status. If you are single and still studying, you may not want to keep your pregnancy. On the other hand if you have a supportive family, meaning parents, brohters or sisters who may help you to take care of the child, you may choose otherwise. Secondly, the responsible father. Do you know who is responsible for the pregnancy? If yes and the guy would like to father the child and you love him, by all means, form a happy family, of course if both of you is financially stable. Abortion is not the best answer unless your other options are not available. Try to find out if your town or city has any social service to help people like as it can provide you with immediate psychology support. Do remember it is not the end of the world.

Answer 7

First you schedule yourself an ob/gyn appt. Talk to someone, a parent, friend, counselor, me if you've got no one else. I'm 20 and pregnant with #3, so I'll sympathize with you. You need a support system though, pregnancy is hard in the best of conditions. The rest you have time for. You can either keep your baby or give him/her up for adoption if you feel that's whats best for your baby. But you don't have to decide all that today. Talk it over with people. Like I said, if you want, you can talk to me. My email address is [e-mail]. Good luck and just know that everything will work out. And in the end there will be a precious baby that will make someone's dreams come true, be it yours or someone else's.

Answer 8

Don't make any rash decisions. If possible, talk to your mother because you are going to need support no matter what you decide. I am not anti abortion, that is for each indiviual to decide for themselves. Marriage is usually a bad option. Not good for any of the 3 involved. Adoption is a great option as there is always a want for newborns but I can only imagine how hard that would be. You have to decide what is best for all involved. This is a decision that you need to think on very seriously. If you cannot talk to your mom, find some adult person you can trust and talk very frankly with. Good luck.

Answer 9

Pregnancy can be very scary without emotional support from family and loved ones. So, you need to discuss with your boyfriend and see whether he is ready to be responsible for the baby. If yes, do get married and keep the baby.

Abortion is very cruel and if not possible to keep baby, do consider adoption or being a single parent by getting the go ahead from your parents or relative. As long as you can get financial and emotional support from your elders, i am sure keeping the baby is the better choice. Do let your parents know so that they can give you advice. If parents are not an option, at least speak to a qualified counsellor or trusted friend.

Whatever your decision, try not to be too depressed or upset ya.

Answer 10

i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant. Its hard to believe at first and its hard to accept.

Just know that any bad feelings you have right now will be replaced with undescribable ones once you actually have your baby. Its really scary but women have babies every day and just be prepared for your life to change from this day on. My life changed completely and even though i dont do the things that other 21 yr old are doing, Ive become content with my lifestyle and becoming a mother and you will too! Good luck and congratulations!!

Answer 11

You have 3 options
Abortion
Keep the child
Have the child and put it up for adoption

19 is a young age so you really need to consider each alternative and how it would affect your life in terms of schooling, motherhood etc..

You should really talk it over with your B/F and your family.
It's unfortunate but nobody can tell you what to do. All they can do is give you options and the pros and cons of each one.

Will you raise the child? Will your parents help? Do you want to marry this guy? Do you want to be a single parent with probably less social life?

There are a lot of people out there that would love a baby but could you give him up. Would you want him back later on in life?