How can I get over the hurt?
2007-02-06 17:27:49 · 34 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well,it's going to take some time but you can do it.This man was the closest person to you.Sometimes when we get that close to someone they can destroy out self-esteem because of the feelings we develop.You have the inner strength to overcome
the pain you are feeling. No self-blame please.If you want to give yourself some 'constructive criticism',fine.We do have to take responsibility for our actions.This way if any mistakes were made we won't repeat them and we can use the expirience as a learning process.Reinforce the fact that you don't need anyone,(not even your husband) to feel whole. Give yourself positive affirmation because it's called SELF-esteem for a reason. Talk to God because there is a bigger picture here, there always is.Show me a husband who doesn't care about his wife and I'll show a husband who doesn't care about himself.You will bounce back.Think of all the trials and tribulations you've had before.God want to see how you respond to this test.There is always a spiritual connection,ALWAYS. You will be fine and stronger than you are now when it is all said and done.
2007-02-06 17:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When a person sees a relationship change that is that dramatic... it is a shock.. and not a good one. Even if the relationship has been like that for a while or even years.. when you see it though, that is when the shock and pain start. Once you get through the fog and once you get past the shock and get into acceptance... then you will get past the hurt and you will only be dissapointed... after that one day.. you won't care. It is a time issue and getting out of the situation will stop the pain from being ongoing. Good luck:)
2007-02-06 17:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why should you is the question if your marriage has come to that. are you actually happy this way dont' you think you deserve better and deserve to be happy with your married or single and living on your own. Its your life so you make it as you wish. by why just settle in a loveless marriage because one is to lazy or afriad to get out on there own. look at roy disney he was recently in the papers he was married for over 55 years he's now in his 70's and he finally realized enough im not happy in this marriage who am i kidding i may not have long to live but damn it im going to enjoy the years i have left whether i meet someone again or not. he even had to give half a billion to his wife he's leaving. but to him its worth it cause when its all said an done you can't take the money with you and what he wants most he's not getting from his relationship all these years and that you can't buy.
2007-02-06 23:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into counseling, to deal with the hurt and anger of the situation. Talk to someone; don't keep it inside or let it eat you up. He made a choice--you need to decide if you will stay or go, get some help, and make the choices you need to find peace in your life. Most importantly, don't let this experience define you as a person; this is a bump in the road of life. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-06 23:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and find someone who will care for you- sleeping around is not the way to do it. Time will be your best help to get over the hurt and having fun without him. Learn to enjoy little things in life and before you know it you will feel 100% better.
2007-02-06 17:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try showing him that you do not care for him, try to be very passive in showing any emotions for a temporary period, this may shock him a bit and he may realise what it is to hurt, in the meantime, try to keep yourself busy in some profitable activity, husbands usually do not care much as normally wives do, its always the one sided affair in 80% cases of married life. I guess you must have heard the famous saying " Love goes outside the window when you enter marriage life". So don't worry, everything takes time to settle too.
2007-02-06 17:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by fm_aqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still together? If yes leave him pronto! If not try taking time to pamper yourself..simple things like: take longer baths, get your hair done, visit a beautician, get a massage, go out with friends...basically focus on nothing but yourself and doing things you enjoy and could not do before for whatever reason...until you realize you deserve better and do not have time to waste on caring for someone who does not care about you!
2007-02-06 17:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband doesn't care about you, then thats not much of a relationship. I think you need to ask yourself if you should really still be with him? Find a person that will give you the respect and love you deserve.
2007-02-06 17:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by geminimale82 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you can't 'get used to it'. Why would you want to continue to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you!?!?!?!?
have you talked to him about your feelings? Maybe he does care- perhaps he just has a different way of showing it? Try reading the Love Languages Book.
2007-02-06 17:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband? Either your over exaggerating and you just want pity or your still not right in the head for being with someone that doesn't care for you. Get over it, divorce the guy and find a new man that will give a good d*** about you
2007-02-06 17:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by wildiva3 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋