my husband is too into his folks, his sisters and mom hate my guts, hes close to them when i complain he tells me he doesnt want to hear garbage but when his mom and sisters complain he stays listens to everything whyyyyyyyy. is there a way i can make him mine to stick up for me and forget them, for him not to listen to their complaints?
2007-02-06 17:14:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
his mom and sis make my daily life a hell. when hes not home she treats me worse then dirt when hes home she totally changes then takes him to the side tells him i love ur wife i treat her like a queen but shes rude to me and very disrespectful, then he becomes angry stops talking to me,why would i want them in his life when shes trying to take me out
2007-02-06 17:25:47 · update #1
If you are looking for Desi way only then century long Desi way to control your husband is baylan (rolling pin) which wives in India had used to control their husbands. But if you looking for some refined way to control him is to be more near to him all the time & keep him as much away from his mother & sisters as you can. More he is near you, more he will listen to you & less to his mother & sisters.
2007-02-06 17:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Desi Husband
2016-12-10 19:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, and I've been in your shoes (for the last 11 yrs and counting). There is nothing you can do to make him stick up for you, unless you've found a magic pill that will make a man do what you want him to. If you ever do, you'll be a very rich woman. The only thing you can do is to stick up for yourself. A friend once told me "People treat us the way we allow them to". If his family starts bashing you, you can either calmly say, "you really hurt me when you say things like that" or you can stand up and say, "I will no longer let you disrespect me like this" and walk away, literally. Whether you are right or wrong in your complaints about his family, he doesn't want to hear you bash them, any more than you want to hear him bash your family, so my advice there is to vent to a friend about it. Smile, bite your tounge when necessary, and stick up for yourself....in the end, they might respect you more for it. Good luck and I'd love to hear how it turns out if you take my advice!
2007-02-06 17:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by infamous_emberella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do the same to hear treat her like a queen when his around dot say any thing bad about his mother and sister know matter how mad they are and when he live to work and they come to visit you just treat her nice and make sure you record there voice so you're husband heard how bad this mother and sister are and see how nice you are with them and ask you're husband to hear this and you play the tape so he can hear it .He going to see how nice you are with them and how bad they really are.
Good Luck?
2007-02-10 04:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
The more you exhibit love and affection he will also listen to you
It is not desi way it is universal way
Desi will not have seperate rules
2007-02-06 17:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by sudha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might sound stupid but it will surely work. Do whatever your husband wants you to do and especially in bed try giving him the best sexual experience beyond his imagination, go all out and dirty with him. This act of love will get him addicted to you and he'll try to hear what you've to say too. Your in laws treat you so just because he dosn't listen towhat you have to say. Slowly let him get addicted to your love making then you can bring forward your problems in front of him.
2007-02-07 05:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Santosh S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your husband were more mature, he would try to smooth out any differences between you and his family. However, he married you, and his loyalty should be to you first. If he's afraid of confrontation with them (very common), you will need to encourage him to stand up to them. If he will not, you will have to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with him-and his family. Good luck.
2007-02-06 17:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Chris S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is my opinion only and dont get angry, don't ever control your husband if u love him. Its his family and dont break it. You will then will have meaningful life. Now u see and know what happen and if you try to control it will be secret. Which 1 u preferrrrrrrrrrr.
2007-02-06 17:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by sharon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remind him that his vows were spoken between the both of you, & he didn't need moms tit in his mouth to say them, & you would appreciate it if he would start acting as the protecting loving husband that he was intended to be. Put your foot down, but remember that his family, is sacred to him, & deserves his respect, 2 a certain extent
2007-02-06 17:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change people, they have to want to change. The best advice I can offer you is to talk to him in a mature manner (without whining) and tell him how it makes you feel when he doesn't listen to you when you try to communicate your feelings to him.Let him know that it hurts you when he doesn't defend you. Of course you can't expect him to disown or disrespect his family-let him know you don't expect him to you just want him to let them know that he loves you and that he'd like them to stop making rude comments about you in his presence.
2007-02-06 17:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jay K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋