OK so I am having marital problems that we are trying to work on. I want things to work out and get better and so does he (so he says). Confusion he doesnt want to make love to me he says that we have never had a problem in that department before and we need to wotk on the other stuff first. I cant help but feel totally rejected. I think it will help and he says no. Odviously I cant force him but I am concerned about what is going on. AS far as I know our issues have nothing to do with adultary but maybe I am wrong.
2007-02-06 16:47:54 · 9 answers · asked by hedda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a good thing that he wants to work out those problems first...
I think that you should take that and run...because if adultery is the problem...you are out of harms way...and if it is not the problem...then at least he regards your relationship to be greater than sex...do you know how many women would love to have someone feel that way about them...
Anyway, counseling...I have been in my marriage...and it changed everything....
2007-02-06 17:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may sound having a direct problem just like the rest assumed.Im just like you looking for the answer too. I am going through that stage now, Im going into lots of emotional depression. I had try to analyse and even talk it out with him but could not find the helpful answer. Its not that Im unattractive, I have the perfect call in woman department never lack of suitors even being married now but yet I stay true even if we had intimacy like 3 months once minimum. I was hurt but again what can I do, he never been unfaithful to me, the reason he gave me is becos he is inferior as he think he cant satisfy me enough even with the amount of honest assurance I gave.
Well I gave up, my marriage is on the rock right now. Even though I needed the best help possible to salvage my marriage but my heart has stop beating for him. Im sorry instead of helping I pour my sorrow in public.
2007-02-07 01:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Abby Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEX IS A HUGE THING TO HAVE WITH ONE ANOTHER, IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO MAKE LOVE WITH YOU THEN HE HAS A PROBLEM. NOT HAVING SEX WILL MAKE THINGS WORSE. SO APPARENTLY YOUR PROBLEMS MIGHT BE BIG THAN YOU ONCE THOUGHT. GIVE HIM SOME SPACE FOR A DAY OR TWO, THEN TALK WITH HIM. MEN DON'T ALWAYS SHARE THE WAY THEY ARE FEELING. SOMETIMES THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THE PROBLEMS ARE. IT COULD BE STRESS, MONEY, WORK OR HE MAY FEEL LIKE HE MAY NOT BE PERFORMING RIGHT IN THE SACK. WHEN HE NEEDS TO TALK HE WILL LET YOU KNOW.
GIVE THE GUY A BREAK. BUT LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM IF YOU DO. BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING.
2007-02-07 00:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by aboogies2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally. His lack of desire to have sex is not your fault. Try to make each other feel loved and accepted. I think it would be wise if you work on the other stuff, the love making will get better when the other issues are dealt with and you reconnect with each other emotionally. It is quite possible that no adultery is involved. Good luck.
2007-02-07 00:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention what "the other stuff" was so that makes it hard. I would suggest talking to him and telling him all your feelings. If necessary see a counselor. Is there a medical problem that you may be unaware of?
2007-02-07 01:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like there more going on it possible that since you
re trying to work out your mariage that you would be open'and
honest about what going on. if he does not want to be with'
you that also a part of the marriage, you may be on to something
sound fishy to me.
2007-02-07 00:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but a man who denies sex with his wife is getting it somewhere else. They aren't just going to abstain like that. Ain't gonna happen.
2007-02-07 00:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex ISNT gonna make your marriage problems go away.
2007-02-07 01:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by lisa c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not late at all. Please seek professional help. Find a good one, not someone who just charges by the hour.
2007-02-07 00:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by masku darling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋