Marriage help???

Question

Um...does anyone know if there is a site that shows what the priest says to pronounce the man and the woman, husband and wife? Like…all the stuff he reads from the bible or whatever? Need it for a bit of guidance through this marriage scene I’m writing in my novel/book.

Help would be appreciated!

Answer 1

MINISTER:

Dearly Beloved, we are gathered together here in the sign of God – and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is commended to be honorable among all men; and therefore – is not by any – to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discreetly, advisedly and solemnly. Into this holy estate these two persons present now come to be joined. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

Marriage is the union of husband and wife in heart, body and mind. It is intended for their mutual joy – and for the help and comfort given on another in prosperity and adversity. But more importantly – it is a means through which a stable and loving environment may be attained.

Through marriage, GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME make a commitment together to face their disappointments – embrace their dreams – realize their hopes – and accept each other’s failures. GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME will promise one another to aspire to these ideals throughout their lives together – through mutual understanding – openness – and sensitivity to each other.

We are here today – before God – because marriage is one of His most sacred wishes – to witness the joining in marriage of GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME. This occasion marks the celebration of love and commitment with which this man and this woman begin their life together. And now – through me – He joins you together in one of the holiest bonds.

Who gives this woman in marriage to this man?


BRIDE’S FATHER OR ESCORT:

Her family and friends gathered here today do.


MINISTER:

This is a beginning and a continuation of their growth as individuals. With mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge comes the affirmation of each one’s own life happiness, growth and freedom. With respect for individual boundaries comes the freedom to love unconditionally. Within the emotional safety of a loving relationship – the knowledge self-offered one another becomes the fertile soil for continued growth. With care and responsibility towards self and one another comes the potential for full and happy lives.

By gathering together all the wishes of happiness and our fondest hopes for GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME from all present here, we assure them that our hearts are in tune with theirs. These moments are so meaningful to all of us, for “what greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together – to strengthen each other in all labor – to minister to each other in all sorrow – to share with each other in all gladness.

This relationship stands for love, loyalty, honesty and trust, but most of all for friendship. Before they knew love, they were friends, and it was from this seed of friendship that is their destiny. Do not think that you can direct the course of love – for love, if it finds you worthy, shall direct you.

Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them. It is the construction of their love and trust into a single growing energy of spiritual life. It is amoral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention. Marriage should be a life long consecration of the ideal of loving kindness – backed with the will to make it last.


Exchange of Vows


MINISTER TO GROOM:

Do you GROOM'S NAME take BRIDE'S NAME to be your wife – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live?


GROOM:

I will.


MINISTER TO BRIDE:

Do you BRIDE'S NAME) take GROOM'S NAME to be your husband – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon him your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live?


BRIDE:

I will.


Exchange of Wedding Rings

MINISTER:

What token of your love do you offer? Would you place the ring(s) in my hand?

May this/these ring(s) be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go – may they always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women year. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home which they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May this/these ring(s) on her/their finger(s) symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in their hearts.


Handing ring to the Groom


MINISTER TO GROOM:

GROOM'S NAME, in placing this ring on BRIDE'S NAME finger, repeat after me: BRIDE'S NAME), you are now consecrated to me as my wife from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and as the symbol of our unity and with this ring, I thee wed.



Handing ring to the Bride


MINISTER TO BRIDE:

BRIDE'S NAME, in placing this ring on GROOM'S NAME finger, repeat after me: GROOM'S NAME, you are now consecrate to me as my husband from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and as the symbol of our unity and with this ring, I thee wed.


Pronouncement


MINISTER:

May you always share with each other the gifts of love – be one in heart and in mind – may you always create a home together that puts in your hearts – love – generosity and kindness.

In as much as GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME have consented together in marriage before this company of friends and family and have pledged their faith – and declared their unity by giving and receiving a ring – are now joined.

You have pronounced yourselves husband and wife but remember to always be each other’s best friend.

What – therefore – God has joined together – let no man put asunder.

And so, by the power vested in me by the State of ______ and Almighty God, I now pronounce you man and wife – and may your days be good and long upon the earth.

You may now kiss the bride.

Answer 2

See, the trouble with the "Well, a brother and sister living co-dependently could enjoy the same benefits" implies that no two straight people have *ever* abused the marriage system when they weren't in a romantic relationship. But a sibling couple doing so would still be legally "married"; they would not then, in turn, be allowed to marry anyone they were actually romantically interested in without dissolving that partnership, with all the legal problems a divorce can cause. I mean, I suppose if a brother/sister pair (or brother/brother or sister/sister, were gay marriage legal) wanted to enter into a lifelong, non-romantic legal partnership, sure, they could conceivably demand they be granted marriage rights. But such partnerships would be rather few and far between, as I think the social stigma of demanding you be allowed to marry your sister would probably suppress that group. A more pertinent question would be on how to handle the number of participants in a marriage. If marriage is opened up from where it is now, then there's the question about whether polyamorous unions should be legally recognized. And if we then expanded marriage to allow, say, 4 members, then what about polygamists who feel socially ostracized because they have a 5-way relationship? Polygamists and brothers wanting to marry their sisters, however, constitute a tiny, tiny fraction of American society. Homosexuals, while still a minority, number far greater. Opening up marriage to same-sex couples, I believe, is a way to grant these romantic pairings the same legal rights that are currently enjoyed via similar partnerships, while minimizing the change to the overall system. Sure, the "slippery slope" argument can still be applied, but just because opening up marriage to homosexuals might open up a bigger can of worms doesn't mean it isn't a good and right thing to do.

Answer 3

What religion? Catholic? Greek Orthodox? Russian Orthodox? Baptist (well they don't have Priests), Epsicapal? Anglican? There are several different "incantations" according to the thousands of different relgions in the world and the Christian based religions don't have a monopoly of Priests or Priestesses. You have to figure out which religion you are talking about first.

Answer 4

wing it,all he has to say is something to the effect that"i now pronounce you man and wife',after the two parties have pledged their troth to one another,yo may kiss the whatever...fill in the dots as applicable these days.
some people only agree to stay married for a certain time period. and of course do not forget the pre nuptial or in some terminology,the ante nuptial contract.(ante meaning before)
good luck with your novel

Answer 5

Marriage vows are promises a couple makes to each other during a wedding ceremony. In Western culture, these promises have traditionally included the notions of affection ("love, comfort, keep"), faithfulness ("forsaking all others"), unconditionality ("for richer or for poorer", "in sickness and in health"), and permanence ("as long as we both shall live", "until death do us part").

Answer 6

look into your bible most of them have the whole ceremonies in there. If not go to your local christian book store and ask for a book on the ceremonies. Good luck

Answer 7

Google marriage vows, every religion has there own so it really makes a difference find the one you like the best.

Answer 8

Try googling it. I found mine online but i can't remember where. I know i found my "with this ring I thee wed" off of a tv sitcom wedding scene so you could also look those up as well.

Answer 9

Catholic priests don't read from bibles..and certainly NOT during a marriage ceremony...

www.google.com

Answer 10

Here's the whole ceremony. Good luck with you book. http://www.weddingplanninglinks.com/planning/traditionalweddingvows.html

Answer 11

he says 'in the name of the father, son and holy spirit' you
are now married, man and wife.