My hubby said the BEST and ONLY way to make sure a woman can keep her husband happy and not to cheat is to give him as much sex as he wants..He also said 3 or 4 times a week is NOT enough for any man..So my question is how do u other married women keep ur husband happy other then just sex.
2007-02-06 16:41:48 · 22 answers · asked by sally d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must have gotten him out of the OPPOSITE pool.....not like most of the guys I've known. Lol...does he have a brother? Maybe you should just relax and enjoy it.....................
2007-02-06 16:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is a manipulating bully. It is not your responsibility to keep him happy. Take it from another married woman, 3 or 4 times a week is way too much for some men. A 'real man' would not threaten to cheat on you, for any reason. If he wants more sex he should help you with your work, make sure you don't get too tired and treat you in a way that you feel so loved that you can't keep your hands off him. You are worth it. Best wishes.
2007-02-07 00:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm a husband. Married 20 years. Your husband is wrong to tell you that. The only way he's not going to cheat is if he decides NOT to cheat. Not enough sex is a lame excuse-I've heard lots of guys (and women) use that one. 3 to 4 times a week-you must be newlyweds! Just the usual Dr. Phil stuff- have a well-rounded relationship, nurture each other, etc. Marriage is a two-way street.
2007-02-07 00:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chris S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is obviously lying to you about that. Plenty of sex does not guarantee a husband will not cheat. In fact, most men will stray if given the opportunity. Thrust me, I know coz I lived in Shanghai for 3 years and I have seen lots of married men having affairs with locals there. Some of the married men even have families with them in Shanghai and their wives are just as young and beautiful. Married or not, they still want some fun on the side, especially Shanghainese women are very loose there. Communication, give and take attitude is much more than sex in a marriage.
2007-02-07 00:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"3 or 4 times a week is NOT enough for any man" Well obviously he never met my ex. I was the one who ALWAYS initiated the sex in our marriage. He was happy with his 4/5 times a year routine...and YES it was scheduled. His birthday, my birthday, our anniversary, Christmas and if it fell on a weekend, Valentine's Day. If it was during the week he would complain about having to go to work the next morning which I found lame at best since I was the one working 12 hours a day.
If you don't feel like having sex don't do it. If you husband threatens to walk offer to help him pack his bags.
2007-02-07 00:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is dillusional. First of all it's not the woman's job to "keep her husband happy and not cheat". If he is truly committed to the marriage, and the marriage is based on love, respect, honesty, and equality then sex is not the most important aspect of the marriage. Sex enhances the marriage. Why do men always think they get to demand sex, put a number on the amount of times a week/day they should get it? Women too can request and actively pursue sex in the relationship. My marriage works not just because of sex (trust me), but because we truly love each other, respect each other and our individual and family goals, we trust each other completely (sex or not) and we can communicate fully about all issues. We are intimate with each other without even having to touch each other. Sex is not everything.
2007-02-07 00:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, having sex with him every day will not keep him from cheating on you, he is just telling you that. If you want to have sex that often then go ahead but if you feel forced then don't do it. If he cheats on you then he does and then you can leave him and find a real man. A real man will stand by his wife no matter if they have sex every day or twice a month. Real men don't cheat, little boys that can't grow up and take responsibility for their lives cheat. If he cheats, ditch the loser and find someone who will love and respect you.
2007-02-07 00:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by country girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has got some balls for even saying that to you, and for you.....you have got NO BALLS for even allowing him to say such a statement to you. how much more disrespect can you take from such a loser? just so you know, for "normal" married couples. sex is important, but it is NOT the ONLY way to make sure a woman can keep her husband happy & not to cheat. LOL. you folks must be lost in Porno World.
Your husband is whack! he must be high on drugs if that's what he thinks. it's a bunch of crap. and $100 bucks says he is already cheating on you. an extra $100 bucks says you are allowing him to. LOL. how sad....
2007-02-07 01:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A comment like that sounds like a control freak trying to manipulation you to me. If a man wants to cheat he will, whether you are chasing after him for sex or not. A real loving and happy relationship is built on trust and respect for each other; not control and manipulation. My husband and I have been together for almost 17 years and we certainly don't have sex that often. We have sex when we both want it. Sometimes we compromise but we don't use it as a tool to control each other. We are there for each other emotionally and we are friends. I would not count on someone like that to be faithful to you regardless of what you do. Sorry, I couldn’t be more positive about it. :(
2007-02-07 00:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bean62960 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok LIE and he's a PIG! Why would he say something like that to you? As a threat? How else does he threaten you? He needs to go to sex addict councelling. I believe sex is very important in a marriage, but it has to be agreed upon, not a *duty*. I'm curious, does he even let you orgasm every time? If not, then why not? Wouldn't that be fair? I'm sorry you have such a loser husband who cares more for sex, than his own wife. What a jerk!
2007-02-07 00:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by christianforChrist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex all the time will not guarantee that he wont cheat on you. Sure sex is very important, but you still have to do the others things to make him happy, along with sex, like dont nag him, be supportive and attentive and whatever else it takes to keep him happy.
2007-02-07 00:46:18 · answer #11 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋