i love a boy that he is a manic .
2007-02-06 16:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by malihe k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get your tubes tied so you don't force children to suffer your choice to be with someone mentally ill. He's not going to make a good father.
2007-02-06 16:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well this is a funny question. I am Bi Polar. I got married 11yrs ago. My mother at the time set the guy down and explained everthing to him and he said he understood. It is a very difficult thing to live with on both sides. If you are sure you understand what it means to really be manic you should go for it but if you are even the least bit unsure dont do it. Try not to throw it in his face when you fight because with meds he should be ok this is a disease that cant go away so. Good luck
2007-02-07 00:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by hedda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that it's not his fault that he is manic depressive. When you marry someone, you marry for love, for the whole package no matter what. Many people with manic depression can lead normal lives if they take proper care of themselves. This means taking the proper medications at the proper times, not mixing liquor with the meds, and try to reduce the stress in their lives. It is a manageable condition, however, you need to be committed to making it work. This means understanding that he will have his good days and he will have his bad days. You just need to figure out if you are capable of dealing with it. Don't rush into marriage until you figure it out. Try living with him first to see how it would be like on a day to day basis with him. You can also find lots of info on the web pertaining to manic depression so you are more knowledgeable about the condition.
2007-02-07 00:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by zumi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is marriage is hard enough without the added problem of manic depression. I think personally you would be setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache & pain. But I think you really already know this in your heart & that's why you are questioning it here in this forum. While it's honorable that you've extended your love to this person that doesn't necessarily make marriage to him the best choice for you or for him. I would consider this prayerfully before deciding.
2007-02-07 00:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is married to a bipolar man. It is an awful life sometimes, but he is also a really nice guy. You have to be super committed to making it work, but only you and he will know if it's right.
Bipolar people are not to be shunned because of their mentalities; it's not something they can help. If he's right for you, then go for it.
Just know that it will be hard. Some days you will be living in hades. Some days you will be happy. You will struggle, but then, all married couples struggle.
My advice? Weigh the rewards of marrying him versus his illness and all it entails.
2007-02-07 01:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by madmusician007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, Ill go with Violet Purple too.... You are in for one hell of an awful life with mental problems.... marriage is tuff enough even when everyone has their head on straight... With depression, ahhhhh s(h) it are you in for a lot of very sad days, weeks, months, years, and decades until it finally dawns on you that your are just miserable.... your question 'Is it okay............" Hon, if I knew the guys had mental problems like that, I'd run like hell...............
2007-02-07 01:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want someone like that to father your children? I think he needs to straighten out first. Otherwise, you'll end up more of a mother than a wife.
2007-02-07 00:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by christianforChrist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to go with "Violet Pearl" on this one, to each their own, but think about the future not just the present.
2007-02-07 00:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋