2007-02-06 16:22:53 · 14 answers · asked by answers999 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They are still my best friend. The kids love them. just dont share values anymore. i want different things in my life.
2007-02-06 16:30:26 · update #1
Kids are 22, 21, 18, 17 and 15. I have put in my time!
2007-02-06 16:34:47 · update #2
They are in denial. And dont want to let go. I think we'd both be happier apart. But I dont want them to not be able to function and that is a real possibility, I have taken care of everything for almost 25 years now.
2007-02-06 16:36:39 · update #3
It has to be one of the most difficult things to do.I did it and it took me ages to get over the guilt.I tried to say to myself that because I was so unhappy,how could he be happy with me.He finally moved on but he was very bitter for many years.
2007-02-06 16:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by joan b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to wonder how after 25 years & 5 kids together you all of a sudden have different values. That seems strange to me. You don't indicate whether you are the male or female in this saga so I'm guessing you are the male. I'm also guessing that your "different values" are the Corvette you've been eyeing for sale & the 25 year old blonde who you're just sure is hot for you. The aging woman whose body you helped deform by allowing her to grow your 5 children just isn't as appealing as it once was. At least that's what happened with my Father. Let me just say from the perspective of an adult when my own parents divorced it was DEVASTATING for me. Even more so I believe than had he done it when I was a child. Now I had to wonder if my whole life had been a lie. I don't know your own personal set of circumstances but it has been my own experience that this usually comes up for one party out of pure selfishness. The grass looks so green on the other side doesn't it? Think about your kids. Think about the woman/man who has devoted his/her whole life to you. Can you really be so heartless as to walk away? Happiness is a choice. You don't need to leave home to find it.
2007-02-07 00:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame. If you're still best friends and the kids are happy, why do the kids have to suffer a broken home because you decided to ditch your vows or want something new? I'd say stick it out, be best friends, and fulfill your obligation to parent your kids. When all the kids are 18, THEN you can go want whatever you want.
2007-02-07 00:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st I am assuming that you sat down and talked several times about why you think your marriage is over. Perhaps your mate sees these things and agrees that they are problems, or doesn't think they are problems. Regardless, they are problems to you. Are you willing to work on these problems together, have you tried and it just isn't getting any better?
Have you tried counseling?
If you have tried to make what doesnt work work, and truly tried to bring the relationship back...then it just comes down to
"I am sorry. I am not happy in our relationship. We have tried, and it just didn't work out. I care about you as a person (if that is still the case). I want a divorce. I am sorry if you don't agree with me, but this is what I need to do."
I hope that this all works out for you!
2007-02-07 00:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By taking actions proving how serious you are. If you really want the marriage over you need to move out of the house and file for divorce.
2007-02-07 00:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to be open and honest with them and let them know
that you are not happy and that you want a divorce then go from
there sometime people respond differently when things dont
work out, as for the kids, they are old enough to understand'
the situation. but you need to live your life for your self. if you
dont you will continue to drown..
2007-02-07 00:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont have to convince someone..usually most just say its over they want a divorce, and seperate whether the other person likes it or not..
2007-02-07 00:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate divorce proceedings
2007-02-07 00:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them served with divorce papers and move. Drop contact with mutual friends.
2007-02-07 00:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by CatQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap them with divorce papers. I don't really believe in divorce, you should go to councelling first, but if that's how you feel, then get the papers.
2007-02-07 00:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by christianforChrist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋