theres this girl at my high school her parents are really poor and abusive so she never wants to be by them she doesnt have anywhere else to go so she makes deals with a different guy everyday its pretty simple you give her dinner and a place to spend the night and shower and a ride to school she sleeps with you AND is nice to your family
well i brought her home the other night and i know it was just part of her "job" but she totally impressed my family, she was good with my little sister and amazing to everyone and now i think i like her but i dont think shes a relationship girl.
should i tell her how i feel and live wit me or what ?
2007-02-06 16:22:26 · 18 answers · asked by man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How old are you and what do you mean live with you?
If you are going to get this girl taken from her home and have her live with you then it's inappropriate for you to pursue a relationship with her.
And she may not be a relationship kind of girl because (and I'm guessing that you are both teens here) unlike other teenage girls, she's not concerned with hair, make up and boys, she's worried about her life and where she's gonna get her next meal. Having a boyfriend may be far from her mind so you'll probably be greeted with a closed door on that one.
Talk to a school counselor on this one. Be a good friend to her and if you want to give her a place to stay then so be it. But don't sleep with her and don't get your hopes up about a relationship cause this girl has way too much to deal with already.
2007-02-06 16:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by blhenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy $&#! This is quite a situation. If you feel this way; ask yourself one question: Would you be prepared to handle such a "responsibility?" Think of it this way; on one end you are offering her stability; but for what price? Sure it be nice to help but you can't stay at home forever; get my drift? On the other end; you say she doesn't seem like a relationship girl; obviously there is a reason why you feel this way; maybe she likes the lifestyle she is leading; and she must be handling things how she sees fit; and it's working for her; and this is the real life that awaits some people out there. Also you are talking about a high school girl; why not help her by notifying the authorities; some situations are not for you to act like a hero. My other question is though; why did you sleep with her? Any attempt to offer her a permanent shelter would probably come off as convenient for you; she's sunk to a level she shouldn't have; becoming technically a prostitute and you've shown her no more respect than the last string of guys that have graciouly accepted her offer. Not to insult you or make you feel guilty of course; but if you went in that direction; then you are just feeling a strong sense of lust for this woman (or girl) and she might be in more control than you think. So you could also start a very long drama filled period where either you or her could get hurt in the long run.
2007-02-07 00:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by nestor_armas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has major issues...poor thing. I hope you didnt sleep with her. If you truely like her, you won't do favors for her in return for sex. You can help her out if you like her, she needs a good guy in her life it seems. Tell her she is too good to be degrading herself like that and you want to help her change her ways. Tell her how you feel, and let her stay with you, but at the same time make sure she realizes that what she was doing before was wrong.
2007-02-07 00:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by SaraWaters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your parents first. If she's old enough to leave home she should try and do that instead of looking around for hand outs all the time. If her parents are as bad as it sounds, there will be some help out there in the community. get her to see a school counselor instead of the bed sheets of every guy around.
2007-02-07 00:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by tami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her talk to her high school guidance councilor, local police about the abuse. Many states have a T.A.S.A. (take a step ahead) program for teens who are deemed at risk for pregnancy, pregnant. It may take an advocate to help her get help. Try the local community action agency or mental health programs in your area. Good Luck.
2007-02-07 00:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG this is a weird situation because u may be looking at the situation thinkin that she needs help, some girls like this like things like that and dont even know it. Honestly. u can try if you care that much which says alot about you. try and if she continues to do the same thing when she doesnt have to then you know that she never really wanted your help. but dont be a fool
2007-02-07 00:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Desire` 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her if she responds in the same way go out together or somethin and let her stay over as long as she wants and ring the cops to let them know about the abuse.
2007-02-07 00:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by Dean Winchester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaaaah! Man is back! Call in the Answers team!
.....no, j/k. In all seriousness, you can be a good friend and support her and offer her a way out, but the only person who can change this woman is herself.
2007-02-07 00:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect the world to be like "pretty woman." But why not it's you're life.
2007-02-07 00:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea but dont sleep with her like every other guy just like that!
let her know its real and you like her for her mind...not her body...let her know that you want her with you to make her happy...not as a job
2007-02-07 00:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Remember Rio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋