Who thinks Valentines Day is unnecessary?

Question

Ok, so when Valentines Day comes around, the couples obviously show that they are in love, but for the singles, this day is an insult because they don't have someone to be with. Plus it is a day when the man feels obligated to spend his hard owned money to buy his wife some really pricey jewlery, that she will wear a few times in her life, just so she can impress the neighbors (a complete waste of money which could be spent on great things like AIDS, cancer, etc... research). Why in heck was this stupid usless holiday founded!?

Answer 1

wow. i agree with you. I'm coupled up etc. but I feel obligated to buy my guy that watch he's been staring at for the last few weeks. we're short on cash this month but i guess it would mean i didn't love him if i didn't buy it right? Ya it's a total money racket and it seems there's got to be a holiday for every month that makes the world cash. spend spend spend. founded on something about st. valentine, i think that the original premise was for people to send notes and little gifts like rocks and flowers to the people they've been googling at all year (like in elementary when everybody gives eachother cards) to break the ice and get it on or whatever. now it's just another thing to fill the seasonal shelves at the wal-mart. i hope the singles don't let the day drag them down - it's really not that fantastically wonderful to be stuck with another person all the time.

Answer 2

Following that logic, Thanksgiving Day is unnecessary, and an insult to Europeans.

Valentine's Day is a celebration of love. Just because you are single, doesn't mean you can't celebrate love. I am single, and I am actually looking forward to spending Valentine's Day with my friends.

Also, "the guy feels obligated to spend his hard owned money?" First of all, I don't believe you should be speaking for all men. Second of all, "the guy?" Apparently "the woman" can't buy something for her boyfriend or girlfriend on Valentine's Day.

You're also implying that "the guy" does indeed feel obligated to buy his partner a gift. I know of plenty of couples that have agreed to not buy eachother gifts this Valentine's Day, simply because spending time together is better, according to them.

Furthermore, I don't really think it's right to assume that this "guy" is donating his "hard owned money" (I think you mean hard EARNED money) to AIDS or cancer research.

In short, Valentine's Day might be unnecessary, but it is a HOLIDAY to CELEBRATE something. When you're celebrating, you're usually doing it for fun. As in, it's unnecessary.

Answer 3

I agree, i think Valentine's day is totally useless. It really sucks for the people who are single. of course there are those people who will tell you, "It's not just a day for romantic love, but all kinds of love...you can spend Valentine's with your friends." I mean, get real, what commercial shows someone giving a box of chocolates/jewelry to their friends? It's a lover's holiday, and it's not fair to those who don't have anyone to share it with.

Answer 4

What's really funny is that they have the wrong symbol for Valentine's Day. Since it's played up as being about romantic love, then Venus should be it's symbol, since she (also known as Aphrodite) is the God of emotional love. However, it's Cupid (Eros) who is its symbol, and he is the God of physical love, also known as lust.

Then again, maybe they have the right God after all.

And yes, the holiday is unnecessary.

Answer 5

I think Valentines Day is a day to say I Love You!Sometimes in our busy lifes we don't let people know how much we care.This day helps us to remember.If you want to give and expensive gift that is a choice you must make but just a single rose or card can and does touch the heart of those who truely love you!!

Answer 6

I don't think it's unnecessary, although it's not really necessary either, it's just a day when people have an excuse to celebrate their love. As far as husbands and boyfriends feeling obligated to buy their loved one an expensive piece of jewelry your wrong. If they feel that way that's their problem. If they don't start it they don't have to continue it, besides women spend big bucks on their men too. I guess my husband is a lucky man, I don't expect nor want jewelry, flowers or any of that kind of stuff, I'm quite happy with a card and a kiss. As far as why it was founded read this, if you feel like reading, it's long, but answers your question.
As early as the fourth century B.C., the Romans engaged in an annual young man's rite to passage to the God Lupercus. The names of the teenage women were placed in a box and drawn at random by adolescent men; thus, a man was assigned a woman companion for the duration of the year, after which another lottery was staged. After eight hundred years of this cruel practice, the early church fathers sought to end this practice... They found an answer in Valentine, a bishop who had been martyred some two hundred years earlier.

According to church tradition St. Valentine was a priest near Rome in about the year 270 A.D. At that time the Roman Emperor Claudius-II who had issued an edict forbidding marriage.
This was around when the heyday of Roman empire had almost come to an end. Lack of quality administrators led to frequent civil strife. Learning declined, taxation increased, and trade slumped to a low, precarious level. And the Gauls, Slavs, Huns, Turks and Mongolians from Northern Europe and Asian increased their pressure on the empire's boundaries. The empire was grown too large to be shielded from external aggression and internal chaos with existing forces. Thus more of capable men were required to be recruited as soldiers and officers. When Claudius became the emperor, he felt that married men were more emotionally attached to their families, and thus, will not make good soldiers. So to assure quality soldiers, he banned marriage.
Valentine, a bishop , seeing the trauma of young lovers, met them in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. Claudius learned of this "friend of lovers," and had him arrested. The emperor, impressed with the young priest's dignity and conviction, attempted to convert him to the roman gods, to save him from certain execution. Valentine refused to recognize Roman Gods and even attempted to convert the emperor, knowing the consequences fully.
On February 24, 270, Valentine was executed.

"From your Valentine"
While Valentine was in prison awaiting his fate, he came in contact with his jailor, Asterius. The jailor had a blind daughter. Asterius requested him to heal his daughter. Through his faith he miraculously restored the sight of Asterius' daughter. Just before his execution, he asked for a pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to her "From Your Valentine," a phrase that lived ever after.


Valentine thus become a Patron Saint, and spiritual overseer of an annual festival. The festival involved young Romans offering women they admired, and wished to court, handwritten greetings of affection on February 14. The greeting cards acquired St.Valentine's name.

The Valentine's Day card spread with Christianity, and is now celebrated all over the world. One of the earliest card was sent in 1415 by Charles, duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. The card is now preserved in the British Museum.

Answer 7

I do believe that it's a holiday created by the greeting card companies to make more money. It's not really my style to celebrate someone on a specific day just because a calendar tells you to, but I suppose, for some people though, it's just a reminder to appreciate their loved one. To each his/her own I guess.

Answer 8

Valentines day was founded back during WW II i suppose and the guy St. Valentine wanted to take a day off to spend with this wife..yada yada yada...I'm with you on this one. Its a useless holiday with no particular meaning behind it (i.e Easter, Christmas, or even memorial day) its sucks all around...those who have someone are expecting something and if they don't their miserable and those who don't have anyone are miserable cause they don't have anyone. Gezz...can't we show our significant others how much they mean to us and how much we love them all year long and not just on valentines day?!?!? flowers die, jewelry rusts, cards rip, chocolates melt and get eaten. Valentines day is a corporate holiday a way for hallmark and candy companies to sale their products

Answer 9

I agree, I think it was really founded to boost sales of jewelry, candy and flowers. It can be nice to have a set day of the year to remind people to spend the time on and with the one they love, but people have gone WAY overboard with it. I agree with the jewelry thing, my husband has bought me some very expensive pieces, and though I do appreciate it and love them I don't like spending that much on them when there are more important things.

Answer 10

If all you do for valentines day is go buy your wife jewelery, then you obviously are in a wrong relationship. Love isn't about diamonds and necklaces, it's about the bond two people share together.