I just got divorced. My ex did not want this but as we were divorcing, he still dated girls and chatted everything with a lady from another city. He ever hit me to protect her. After the legal divorce process was over, he cried and begged me to give him a chance. His tears bothered me a lot. He said he had no sex relationship with that lady so he was still loyal to me, and he just was playing games with other ladies. I was the only one he loved. He begged me not to fall in love with other man in the future. This morning, a morning call from that lady caused me angry and I left him. Should I give him and me a chance since we have been together for 10 years and we have a son only ages 4 now?
2007-02-06 16:03:59 · 18 answers · asked by Shirley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your mind not your heart. your heart has no brain.
2007-02-06 16:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Desire` 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I read your profile, and I was touched by the part where you say you know what the solutions to a lot of your problems are, but don't have the courage the put them in action. I also know that a lot of Chinese culture encourages the subservience of women to men. You've got a lot of old, bad, barriers to break down. Your husband is all words, no action. He talks one way and acts another. If you take him back now, it is kind of like giving him permission to hit you, since he has done it, and you know if you take him back he is capable of it. Why do you let the surface of this man dictate your actions. His tears shouldn't bother you. His relationships with other women and his disrespect of you should. Try to be brave. DO NOT give him another chance. Your son is all the more reason to send him away. Do you really want your son growing up like his father? You will be lonely and sad....for a while, but I promise you, your life will be better without him. Be strong for your son.
2007-02-06 16:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Nothing good ever comes from stuff like this. And I strongly feel like this will happen again and you two will split up again for the exact same reasons. I had this pulled on me once too. He begged and begged, I said no and I later found out that he was sleeping around. How can he go that long with out sex anyway?
You just go on living your life the way you have been with out him. My ex husband ordered me not to date anybody too. Isn't that weird how they think they've got a say? Don't let this weigh on you cuz he's a liar which got him in this position in the first place. You're free to move on now. I think that if he was concerned about it he should of spoke up right away.
2007-02-06 16:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO do not give him a chance. Try contacting your local domestic violence agency. It is confidential and they will help you work this out. It is never okay for a man to hit a woman no matter the reason. Be strong and think of your son. Do you want him to follow his father's example?
2007-02-06 16:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by CatQueen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't give him another chance. He's playing with your head. He has a lot of growing up to do.IF EVER! Regardless, you should about you and your son in more of a healthy and happy environment. I sense that he cannot be trusted!
2007-02-06 16:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by ********* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answer to that. You know in your heart if you believe him or not. I DO believe in second chances, however when it comes to cheating it's a different story. Are you able to truly forgive him? If so then go for it and don't worry about what other's think.
GL!
'-)
2007-02-06 16:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give him one last chance, but he better walk the straight and narrow from now until the grave. If not there are plenty of good men out there, you just have to find them. Also you can call Cheaters.com and have them follow him for you. Sure it is embarrassing, but its free and you find out the truth.
2007-02-06 16:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes u can....go 4 another chance atleast 4 ur baby. But remember never for third.
2007-02-06 16:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by bindu m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No because he wants the best of both worlds. He is not an honest person.
2007-02-06 16:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He hit you to prtect her,,Honey that sealed it.Move on.He is just upset that he lost hold and his control over you.If you take him back he will treat you like crap.
2007-02-06 16:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by Meemi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter if he had sex with her or not, he wanted to have sex with her
it is not a game, he was cheating on you and he was not loyal to you, because he spent time with someone else when he could have spent that time with you
2007-02-06 16:07:13 · answer #11 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋